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Have any of you ever gone through periods of time when you felt like you were useless and like you didn't really server a purpose in life?    

Just wondering.  Lately I've felt this way on and off.   I feel like my life is just me doing what I have to do to get by and not a whole lot else.  

 
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[User Picture]From: georgefantana
2013-01-09 06:20 pm (UTC)

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Yup. Then I got divorced and began my life for serious.
[User Picture]From: copper_1
2013-01-09 06:28 pm (UTC)

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That is where we differ I guess. My boyfriend is one of the ONLY things in my life that makes me feel like I have meaning, but he has good career potential and I don't so sometimes he isn't helpful either.

I hope you are happier now!
[User Picture]From: uberash
2013-01-09 06:56 pm (UTC)

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Maybe you're just comparing apples to oranges. If you want to feel different do something different. Get a hobby, take some classes, change careers if yours is unfulfilling.
[User Picture]From: uberash
2013-01-09 06:56 pm (UTC)

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When did you get divorced?
[User Picture]From: orgine
2013-01-09 10:53 pm (UTC)

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Same answer :)
[User Picture]From: lil_cupcake_03
2013-01-09 06:20 pm (UTC)

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Oh yeah. This is my life story. Just keep your chin up and carry on. That's what I'm doing. I hope you do the same
[User Picture]From: cuneiforms
2013-01-09 06:21 pm (UTC)

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I am absolutely owned by that feeling. Like I'm just skimming through life doing the bare minimum.

I think it's because so little is actually required to survive nowadays. Our lives are too easy.
From: saloonperfume
2013-01-09 06:28 pm (UTC)

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I think the opposite can be true, too, though. Sometimes your life is so hard you feel like you're useless and completely ineffective and nothing matters.

Edited at 2013-01-09 06:34 pm (UTC)
[User Picture]From: cuneiforms
2013-01-09 06:49 pm (UTC)

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Yes. I hear what you're saying.
[User Picture]From: rubytuesday6
2013-01-09 09:22 pm (UTC)

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This. so much
From: light_frost
2013-01-09 06:39 pm (UTC)

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Yes, loads of times. There have been many occasions where I was gripped with unseemly existential angst and an overwhelming feeling of depression, and a general sense of nothingness, which I don't like at all. I don't really know how to deal with that except wait for it to pass, which it does.
[User Picture]From: ccat50
2013-01-10 02:29 am (UTC)

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My feelings exactly. Still waiting for it to pass.
From: light_frost
2013-01-10 02:41 am (UTC)

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I wish I could provide a good way to make that feeling dissipate...what happens with me is that it fades away, I guess. I get distracted. I eat food, remember that it feels good, and then I feel human again, I guess...but sense the existential angst is recurring, the problem is never really solved, just momentarily pushed away. So I would like to conquer the root problem, but i don't know how.
[User Picture]From: ccat50
2013-01-11 07:05 pm (UTC)

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I also occasionally can rise above my anxiety and worry and angst and actually feel happy but it doesn't last long. The problem is always there in the background. Medication doesn't even seem to be helping. I, too, would like to conquer the root problem. I wish I knew what it will take to fix this.

Edited at 2013-01-11 07:05 pm (UTC)
From: light_frost
2013-01-11 07:06 pm (UTC)

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We're allies in this depression, my friend.
[User Picture]From: ccat50
2013-01-11 07:08 pm (UTC)

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It is nice to talk with someone who understands what it is like.
[User Picture]From: uberash
2013-01-09 06:57 pm (UTC)

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Periodically. I think I get bogged down in the day to day. I dont feel like I have any adventure in my life anymore.
[User Picture]From: juniperbrze
2013-01-09 07:10 pm (UTC)

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Holy f*ck... I started feeling this way on Sunday... out of the blue, just ... la la la, woke up and felt the exact same way.
I wanted to comment of you feeling of just getting by. I think a lot of people feel this way but do not say it often. I honestly think that due to economy and other factors, it is how a lot of people are doing it. You are so not alone and I am not just saying that. We all do what we can and just... what I do is try not be too hard on myself for feeling this way. It does eventually pass and if it does not, I schedule an appointment with a shrink :P How I try to think about it, is that I am making a difference in someone's life, even I do not see it. Whether it by job... helping a friend or just an act of kindness.

I hope you the best because for real... feeling kinda the same way you are. Yesterday I was blown out 10 on feeling this way. Today I am like... an 8.
[User Picture]From: cindyanne1
2013-01-09 07:13 pm (UTC)

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Oh yes. Or else that my only purpose in life was to make other people's lives easier. Like yes of course people would miss me if I was gone, but only because that would mean they'd have to clean up their own messes, etc.

It's a horrible feeling. :(
[User Picture]From: vodkabeforenoon
2013-01-09 07:36 pm (UTC)

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Yes. That is when I made changes. It wasn't easy, there was a lot of sacrifice to make the changes but I feel better about myself.
[User Picture]From: dreamabella
2013-01-09 07:42 pm (UTC)

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Sometimes I feel like I'm not really going anywhere in life. I've been unemployed for over a year and a half, and I still live at home with my parents. I just want a job that I like that will also keep me financially independent. I want my own place.

I feel like my life is either boring or too much drama that I want to avoid. I want the fun back in my life. Sadly, with that comes the need for money to do the fun things (eg go to concerts, travel, etc.). I know they say that money doesn't buy happiness, but somtimes it really does.

While I'm still looking for work (which often has more social pressure attached to it than financial pressure), I'm trying to keep myself busy with my own projects. I try not to let my mind stay on any one problem for too longer. Journaling helps, I vent all of my frustrations and then put the book back on the shelf, leaving to go do something else.
[User Picture]From: usnbfs
2013-01-09 07:44 pm (UTC)

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That's basically my normal state of mind. It's not that I don't have good times or even great times, but generally I see myself as a useless failure.
[User Picture]From: disorderata
2013-01-09 07:47 pm (UTC)

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This describes my life. You learn to live with it.
[User Picture]From: verygwen
2013-01-09 09:44 pm (UTC)

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I think I combat these times before they happen. When I knew I was going to be quitting my job/hobby/thing, I found another to take its place so I wouldn't have a lull. I know I'm going to have lots of extra time later this year, so I'm planning to learn violin.
[User Picture]From: oneworldvision
2013-01-09 09:46 pm (UTC)

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Yes. I felt that way sometimes while I was unemployed, but now that I'm working full-time it's ever-present because I devote all my energy to a shitty job and have nothing left for anything that would actually make life worth living.