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[lightofdaye]
so following on from an older question How does one go about 'getting a life'? By which I mean becoming more social with an eventual aim of dating etc.

PReviously heard the advice that basically getting a hobby that involves other people is the key. Obviously hobbies you actually want to do and are not just doing to pick up women. ON the other hand I can't think of any hobbies I'd actually be interested in doing.

So advice please? or Recommendations for new hobbies? Thanks

eta: I'm basically a pretty cliché geel/nerd type thing. Spend most of my time on the internet. Really like reading and writing and watching sci-fi and just pointless viewing stuff on the internet. Hence the no social life, lol.
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[User Picture]From: opheliaheart
2013-01-02 01:36 pm (UTC)

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i dont have any idea what your interests are, generally hobbies are something which builds on a strength/talent you have so idk
[User Picture]From: lightofdaye
2013-01-02 01:37 pm (UTC)

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darn it. vague questions lead to vague answers. Whodathunkit? Lol.
[User Picture]From: gunshotbeauty
2013-01-02 01:38 pm (UTC)

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yeeeep
[User Picture]From: heyfashion
2013-01-02 02:06 pm (UTC)

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check out meetup.com and see what kind of groups are in your area
[User Picture]From: lightofdaye
2013-01-02 02:11 pm (UTC)

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cool idea. There's alas nothing with 5 miles of where i live. And anything much firther that becomes difficult owing to the fact i don't drive. and the buses ain't great either.
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2013-01-02 03:18 pm (UTC)

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ask a friend with a car to go with you
[User Picture]From: grrillaesthete
2013-01-02 04:16 pm (UTC)

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Yep, I second this. If there's nothing in your area, make one! Have a "sci-fi enthusiasts of X" group. I bet you'll get pretty good responses right now; lots of people list "make new friends" or "do something new" as their resolution.

If you can't afford meetup, try CL. There is a platonic section.
[User Picture]From: mlledesade
2013-01-02 02:08 pm (UTC)

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Try something you've never tried before.

Right now, my only social life involves going to a local board games meetup on Friday nights.
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2013-01-02 03:18 pm (UTC)

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Well really we know nothing about you or your interests, so i guess try a shotgun approach. Sign up for several classes, start participating in several hobbies where you interact with people, and keep doing that until you find something you enjoy. Plenty of people who like reading (ie: book clubs) and watching sci fi (ie: web forums, movie groups, etc) have social lives, stop boxing yourself in to a category you say you dont want to be in and put yourself out there! Try taking a dance class, participating in a local recreational sport or club, go to a wine tasting, check out a new bar, etc.
[User Picture]From: lightofdaye
2013-01-02 07:53 pm (UTC)

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thanks for the advice. this response made me realise i was shooting down suggestions as they were suggested. Which is counter productive.
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2013-01-03 03:37 pm (UTC)

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Dont worry, lots of people do exactly that (including myself). its easier to give advice then take it ;)
[User Picture]From: mr_sadhead
2013-01-02 03:39 pm (UTC)

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Cartooning. Teach yourself basic cartooning proficiency and start hanging out at small press events in your area. Set up an Etsy for your minicomics and start trading and selling your work. Find a group of like minded cartoonists and join them for drink and draw nights.
[User Picture]From: lightofdaye
2013-01-02 07:46 pm (UTC)

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this qualifies as most awesome and original response, thanks.
[User Picture]From: mr_sadhead
2013-01-02 10:35 pm (UTC)

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It worked for me!
[User Picture]From: miss_almost
2013-01-02 09:46 pm (UTC)

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i second the suggestion about checking out meetup.com - ime, the meet ups take place all over. like the foodies group meets at different places every month, as does the nightlife/socials group - they go to various bars, pubs, vineyards, etc. i know theres also a hiking/walking group and they do different parks, trails, etc.
so maybe if there arent any in your immediate vicinity right now - still join up, and keep an eye on their meetings to see if any take place closer to your home. otherwise you can either suggest meet ups near you, or start your own group of your interest - geek group? culture group? anything!

otherwise - does your city have a free newspaper? those usually list all the bands playing at bars/pubs but they generally have write-ups for all kinds of city events. like pumpkin carving, art festivals, street/vendor fairs, taste of [your city] food festival, etc.
[User Picture]From: mikehz
2013-01-02 11:02 pm (UTC)

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I suggest outdoor hobbies, such as bike riding, hiking, camping, or canoeing. For one thing, they're fun. For another, you meet such interesting people. Or, some fitness-related activity, such as weight lifting.

If you don't care for the outdoors, you might look into photography (my wife's hobby-of-choice) or something such as painting. I'd suggest writing (my main hobby) but at least with painting you have something you can hang on a wall when you are finished with a project. I have met many, many interesting people at writer's clubs and conventions, and Toastmasters.

As John Irving said in "Hotel New Hampshire," the key to the meaning of life is to find something and getting obsessed about it.
[User Picture]From: semi_sweet
2013-01-04 04:29 am (UTC)

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um, do you like board games? perhaps there is a club in your area. not just monopoly but the more fun, european style like agricola