When it puts the mothers life at risk, I guess.
i think anyone (male or female) shouldn't have a baby beyond their 50s
It becomes selfish to the child
How so? I know a number of grandparents who raise their children's children.
I'm just saying it's not ideal. My dad had me when he was 47 and I wish he had me earlier. It's less time to spend with your parents and he probably won't see me get married and it makes me sad I guess.
I don't know it's hard to put a date on when people shouldn't have kids anymore, I guess I'm just saying ideally people should try to have kids when they still have lots of time to be active and care for them and not be stuck with expensive health problems.
But is that really the best situation? Usually that's something where people are doing the only thing they can in a bad situation.
completely agree. my mum was 43 when she had my youngest bro...she was already exhausted too easily lol. 50 would have been way too old. i mean we got a lot more life experience and patience etc. but we could have also used more energy.
Having children at all is an act of selfishness, if you want to get really technical.
My mom was on the older side when she had me & my younger brother. I think 40ish is a decent cut off -- after that the risks of down synrome & other disabilities grow exponentially
My mother adopted me when she was 35, and gave birth to my younger brother when she was almost 40. She was a perfectly capable parent, I just wish we had more time with her. Her death wasn't age related though.
I thought after 40 the risk to both the mother and child increases a lot. Health problems, delivery complications, etc, so that's what I'd base my opinion off of. Not that it's a hard and fast rule, more of a general safety guideline.
I can't answer, I can't answer that. There's certainly been no boundaries to women having babies at previously unthinkable ages.
That it's prudent? Probably early 40s. But women "can" do it later.
There is no sensible answer to this question. People should have children when the time is right for them.
My mum was 42 when I was born. No, I don't have Downs syndrome. It's actually really rude and able-ist to insinuate that "older" women shouldn't have children because of the heightened risk and most people who have this opinion don't realise that most kids with Downs are born to younger women because statistically more kids are born to younger women generally. I'm 25 and know of 2 women my age who have babies with Downs. Plus, omg, non invasive screening tests are now available to all pregnant women (in this country, anyway). </p>
I'll also add that most people who have opinions on ages of the mother don't consider the age of the father. My dad is 11 years older than my mum, and the generation gap is considerable. No one considers that issue, they're more concerned with "omg, your mother was in her forties!!!!"
Totally agree with you. My mum was 39 when she had me, and all my friends are ~omg shocked~ when they hear about it. I think the "you don't have enough energy when you're older" argument is crap too, tbh. Everyone I know wants kids young so they "have the energy to run around and play with them" - do they think you suddenly become incapable of doing that beyond age 26? Your energy levels don't switch off all of a sudden, and everybody feels differently at different ages, I think it has more to do with lifestyle choices than age.
Like my mum is turning 62 next year and she's coming to China with me to walk part of the great wall, I'm pretty sure she's more active than my friend's younger parents.
hell, my mom is 60 and more active than me as a 27 year old. she sometimes goes biking (serious biking, not leisurely) AND swimming in the same day and i'm like waaaaah 20 minutes on the elliptical is sooo0oo0o hard
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My dad is 57 and he is so much healthier, fitter and more active than me at 23. His idea of a leisurely walk is a power walk for me, and I'm not inactive or unfit!
My mom was 44, I'm 26, my dad is 16 years older than her.
They were both excellent parents, my mom is amazing and my dad is suffering from age-related problems, but he made it to 80 before having any age-related problems.
To read that my parents shouldn't have had me is fucking insulting.
i can't speak for other women but for myself, ideally, i'm hoping to have children no later than 36/37
Maria del Carmen Bousada de Lara is the oldest verified mother; she was aged 66 years 358 days when she gave birth to twins.
I think somewhere in their early-mid 40's.
If she is healthy, I see no reason why she can't conceive and have a child until her mid-40's as long as she understands the risks involved.
i think after 35 the risk for a lot of disorders/complications goes up exponentially, but that isn't to say you can't have a healthy baby after then. if i had ever wanted kids, i'd have done it in my mid 20s, cuz i felt like i had a bit more energy then. now i'm exhausted, and that's only one reason i never wanted kids.