My SO and his brother are awkward about getting gifts right now because they don't really have the means to reciprocate. I tried to explain that people give gifts because they want to, not because they expect something in return. I know they get it, but getting gifts still makes them feel badly.
I feel really really self conscious opening gifts in front of people. It's just really awkward. I think my outward reaction almost never reflects my true feelings about the gift because I can't act natural when I'm on the spot like that, and people probably think I'm ungrateful because of it, when on the inside I'm probably actually thrilled.
maybe that's how she is.
or maybe she's just bratty.
Edited at 2012-12-26 03:37 am (UTC)
This is exactly how I am. I just don't really have a strong reaction to anything I open (even if I love it!!) so I always just try to fake it which is super awkward.
I am like this too.
My wedding shower was a complete and utter nightmare for me, because unlike other gift holidays, I was the only one opening anything and it was in front of a very large group.
It's entirely possible OP's niece simply has awkwardness or anxiety while being watched by others.
that really would be a nightmare :[
I think I'm just not very expressive in my facial expressions or body language, plus I'm shy, and being watched and expected to give a big display of emotion makes me feel nervous and guilty because that's not how I am. Not like I'm stoneface mcdeadpan here but I'm just not a ~squeal with delight~ person at all.
Same, except I'm aware of it and then I go OTT in the other direction. Aaagghhh and now my birthday's coming up D:
I think younger people, especially teenagers should be cut a lot of slack.
It's a really hard age, especially if you'e awkward as hell.
I would just be the nice aunt, and be friendly to her and kill her with kindness and you never know, she may be really grateful to you in a few years and let you know how much it meant.
Me. :\ Always have been... I'm thankful, but I feel awkward/guilty about getting things, and I've never been that emotionally expressive.
2012-12-26 05:51 am (UTC)
i am kind of like that...i hate having money spent on me so if it's not something that i specifically asked for, i feel guilty about the fact that they wasted money on something i won't use at all
Unless she's actually complaining about her gifts, give the kid a break.
Me sometimes. Last year I didn't even open my Christmas gifts until some time in January. :/
Yeeeeep. This person in question makes it very clear when she gets a gift she does not like, and woe betide you if you forget to get her anything for her birthday.
I know a lot of people who don't react too much for gifts. I think as humans most people subconciously aren't sure how to react to situations such as that.
My sister used to sigh loudly every time she'd open a gift that she either didn't like, or didn't know if she liked. SO ANNOYING. STFU and say thank you, geezus.
I'd take a flat look over that passive-aggressive shit anyday.