If you has agreed to buy each other gifts and they regifted I might say something but if it's just a crapy Regift then take it and say thanks
I would probably stand around awkwardly, to be honest. I don't know what the etiquette would be in your situation. How bad is it? Is it something you gave your friend, and they forgot? If so, that sucks.
It's best to just ignore it, I would say. Unless it's a joke gift and it's made funnier by the person admitting it's a regift. My family does this a lot for laughs.
What do you mean by deny? Not accept the gift? It might depend on the situation. If it was something I'd actually given them and they forgot (and I was sure it was the exact same item somehow and not just that they thought I'd like one too because it is something I like to give) then I would definitely call them on it. I'd do it in a lighthearted and teasing way and not an upset way, but they'd deserve it; that's pretty bad.
If it was something they got from someone else and the reason they were regifting it is not because it is a shitty gift, but because they already had it because they liked it so much I'd be honored and pleased and enjoy it as much as any other gift.
I hardly ever regift but I actually just did the latter. My husband's parents got him a DVD called Prehistoric Park last year. It is a bit juvenile, but we actually love it. It's a National Geographic channel thing or something and it's also very funny. But they forgot and got it for him again this year. We thought of saying something to see if they had a receipt or donating it, but then we remembered my cousin's son was able to make it to a party the next day after all so we should really get him something last minute in a rush. He's 7, and loves dinosaurs. He got that DVD and loved it. There are definitely times it is better than others, mostly when it is something you already have and love.
I think it depends on the context.
Just donate it to charity.
Denying a gift is preeee-teeee tacky. It makes gift-giving creepy.
2012-12-25 09:11 pm (UTC)
how do you know it's a regift? and what is it?
Accept it graciously, and then regift it at some later date.
It definitely depends on the context. Maybe money is tight and they couldn't afford buying new presents.
If this is a situation you encountered, why didn't you want the gift except for it being a regift?
If we're very close, and I knew for an absolute fact that s/he regifted it to me out of laziness and not because she was having money problems or because it was something she knew I would love and use even though she didn't want it, I might make a joke about it, but I'd still accept it.
If I were that close with the person, we'd probably tell each other it was a regift before giving it to them, and then laugh about who gave it to us originally, or how poor we are.
Depends on the context as to whether or not I'd be pleased with the gift. If the person was struggling financially or already had something similar, I'd take it and be happy with it. If it was an obvious regifting of a craptastic gift, then I would feel disrespected but I'd still take it because rejecting it would be embarrassing and tacky and probably cause drama.
Unless you're in a setting where people tend to give out gag gifts, like those games people play at Christmas parties sometimes. In that situation I'd just laugh it off because it's meant to be funny anyway.
Give it back to them next year.
I would just accept it and regift it to someone else (or if I was the one who gave it to them, I would regift it back to them the next chance I get, lol).