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Every time I come home for Christmas my family ends up in a screaming match.

Can you please tell me about your frustrating family on the holidays?
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[User Picture]From: noodledays
2012-12-24 10:59 pm (UTC)

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what happened with your little sister? and they do get better with age, I swear. ;)
[User Picture]From: kill_inhibition
2012-12-24 07:51 pm (UTC)

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My dad is sometimes around and sometimes not. We never know when he'll show up, how long he'll stay or his intentions for coming (it is to see family but it's also to get fed and to try to get some money off us as he's homeless and only comes around when he bumps into us, has something to share with us (rare) or really really needs something). My siblings and I have grown to accept this and we know it's just how he is, however my three year old son who loves him to death doesn't understand why he's not around very much and why we can't get a hold of him and why he isn't here for the holidays as he was expecting him. It's really sad.
[User Picture]From: oh_honestly_
2012-12-24 08:01 pm (UTC)

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Today, a tree just fell on my grandparent's house. Honestly, I'm just happy nobody got hurt. :( Anyway, I was going to say that they tend to lecture me, but, in light of things, I don't feel like complaining.
[User Picture]From: piperki
2012-12-24 11:02 pm (UTC)

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Wow. I guess you can be glad they're around to lecture you!
[User Picture]From: hikerpoet
2012-12-24 08:05 pm (UTC)

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My immediate family can be more tumultuous than most, but the holidays are actually often when they pull it together better than most. It's nice.

My in-laws were a bit frustrating yesterday. My MIL has actual OCD and it seriously took us 11 hours to exchange a moderate amount presents yesterday as she opened everything with surgical precision with scissors and exacto knives and panicked about whether they were being handed out in the right order and making sure nothing was missing from a present or panicking that someone didn't accidentally take anyone else's home, oh, and don't forget the fact she had to draw a chart of who gave what to who. My three year old and one year old, who are supposed to be at the age where they open things with climatic explosions of anticipation and then proceed to chew on the paper, had the patience of saints throughout the whole ordeal.
[User Picture]From: noodledays
2012-12-24 11:00 pm (UTC)

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wow, good on your girls! that's mighty impressive.
[User Picture]From: blue_moon_ice
2012-12-24 09:16 pm (UTC)

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My younger brother is a drug addict and the holidays always end up being about him one way or another. Even my birthday (which is in March and his in August) ends up being about him in way or another.
This year my daughter is old enough to actually enjoy Christmas and open her presents by herself. And at the end of November my parents said he wasn't allowed in the house anymore so I was really looking forward to it just being my parents, my daughter, and two of my brothers tomorrow morning. But they reconciled with my brother and now he will be here tomorrow and I just dont want to see him
[User Picture]From: un_attra
2012-12-24 09:33 pm (UTC)

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Well, I haven't been home in over a year, this being my second Christmas without seeing anyone back home...
But my last Christmas with my family, I really wanted it to just be private since I was leaving and I just wanted it to be immediate family but my sisters had both of their SO's spend the whole day with us and their SO's were really bitchy (I later found out that they both invited their SO's just to 'piss me off' and in fact "celebrate" the fact that I wouldn't be coming home for Christmas for a couple of years)
Dad was doing his usual rants of how every single one of us is ungrateful and how we disgust him...even though we were all thankful for the gifts we got...Dad again started his ranting about dinner and how someone was going to "fuck it up" my luck that it was me, which did put me to tears...bleh.
Christmas dinner was sadly more hostile than anything that year. Everyone except my kindergarten ages sister, mom, and myself were in pissy moods. Yikes...
[User Picture]From: loveandbees
2012-12-24 09:47 pm (UTC)

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Well, my mother just literally screamed because her chestnut stuffing went wrong. She then tried to put the blame on my brother and me by saying we should have been in the kitchen to notice, when she previously had said not to touch it. whatever.
From: saloonperfume
2012-12-25 08:03 am (UTC)

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lol hi, my mom.
[User Picture]From: piperki
2012-12-24 11:01 pm (UTC)

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I live far away and nobody will drive to my state to visit me for Christmas ever. They never have. If I want to see them at Christmas, I have to drive home, and I have to get a hotel for my family since nobody has room for us. Years and years like this. I have lots of room here and have invited them. Oh well...they're also not answering the phone this evening so it must be busy, hmm? It's laid-back at my place, that's for sure.
[User Picture]From: givinguponyou
2012-12-25 01:31 am (UTC)

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My in laws are here visiting. After telling my father in law no less than 25 times that my dog cannot be outside alone, he let him out anyway and my dog proceeded to kill my daughters prized rooster, who has been a part of her 4-h project since August when we bought him in Florida and drove him home with us to Connecticut. We have a chicken coop/pen but 2 of the chickens like to fly out and graze in the yard, which is why we do not let the dog out alone.
[User Picture]From: automatik
2012-12-25 04:22 am (UTC)

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Well it's not 'my' family, but my aunt's sister starts fights every Christmas when she comes down to visit. This year it's over a car. The fight started within the hour she arrived. She didn't rent a car this time because she wanted to borrow her dad's car. However, it's for sale, not insured, and the plates aren't renewed. She threw a BIG fit over it and is trying to get all members of the family involved. Nobody cares though, because she visits her friends in the area every Christmas she comes down. That's the only reason why she's fed up about not being able to borrow a car right now. And yeah, she's a grown woman in her 40s. It's pretty sad.
From: saloonperfume
2012-12-25 08:04 am (UTC)

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My family sucks. I've seriously come to despise the holidays.
[User Picture]From: hereisfar
2012-12-25 11:21 am (UTC)

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Some of my extended family has yet to meet my boyfriend. Last night we were at my mother's doing the Christmas thing early and my boyfriend was looking through the car for a piece of a present. My stepdad's sister in law (my step aunt?) is one of those people who is really uppity and insincere and fake. She's very holier-than-thou and extremely judgmental. Well, when she arrived she ran into my boyfriend outside and said "Oh, you're a big guy! Are you Santa?" When she came inside she made multiple comments to me that he's a really big guy and I should make him dress up as Santa because he's so fat. I said to her "That's offensive and I would never say that to him because I'm not a mean person." She basically just repeated herself saying it wasn't mean but he really is a big guy and should be Santa. I said "No, I would not say that to him because I am not a MEAN person! Then stormed outside.

Otherwise nothing dramatic happened. She avoided us both for the rest of the night.

Edited at 2012-12-25 11:22 am (UTC)
[User Picture]From: loveleaveregret
2012-12-25 07:21 pm (UTC)

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I have an issue with my dad's girlfriend. She is judgmental of him, nags him, and does not appreciate him. I still live at home with my dad and she is upset because I do not want her to move in with us. My dad and I get along great and have an amazing relationship, I do not want his girlfriend to come in and bicker with him constantly and listen to her nag him. So until I get my own place, I do not want her to move in and my dad is fine with that. She constantly makes comments about not living with us. She did it at my graduation dinner a few weeks and did it last night in front of my family. I finally had enough, and my dad did also, and we got into a huge fight with her. She just played the victim and even threatened suicide! Ugh I have had enough of her ruining my holidays with my family.
[User Picture]From: schexyschteve
2012-12-26 02:30 am (UTC)

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.My father was released from jail today, and I went over there to give him his presents and see him (I thought I'd play nice because, you know, it's Christmas and he's my father). But I get there and him and my mom are screaming at each other. I stood there for a few minutes, then yelled out, "Merry fucking Christmas" and walked out. Then he followed me to the car and gave me my present back (for some reason, idk). I'm sick and tired of not having a nice holiday with them around, because someone's either yelling at someone, or it's incredibly tense.

I'm just beyond done with the two of them.
[User Picture]From: chaostrophy
2012-12-26 03:55 am (UTC)

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There is pretty much ALWAYS drama on the holidays if they're held at my mom's. Thankfully, this year Christmas was at my dad's, so we exchanged gifts, drank beer, ate dinner and watched tv. My brothers and I had a few hilarious exchanges, and I came back to my SO's apartment. My mom and I haven't spoken since June and she sent a card with money for to my dad's with one of my brothers. I sent her a text saying thank you and that I hoped she had a merry Christmas and have heard nothing back. I don't expect to, and that's the extent of my family dramaz.