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[theaftercath]
Anything awkward happen to you/your family this weekend?

Anything awkward that you're anticipating happening for Christmas?

My oldest sister is going through a really bitter divorce (restraining orders against each other, super strict court mandated visitation etc...) and only has my niece and nephew for a 4 hour window on Christmas Eve. To make the most of this window, my poor dad and stepmom are going to sister's new boyfriend's house to celebrate Christmas with sister and her kids, boyfriend and his kid, and boyfriend's parents. My dad is completely horrified, but sucking it up for the kids. I'm kind of horrified for him, but also laughing my ass off because it's just too awkward for words.
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[User Picture]From: suzermagoozer
2012-12-24 04:29 am (UTC)

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whoa. that sounds painful.

i just found out that i sent the christmas gifts that were supposed to go to florida over to colorado. and vice versa.

that sucks. giftfail sucks.
[User Picture]From: theaftercath
2012-12-24 04:32 am (UTC)

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Oh nooo! Have you informed the recipients of the impending disaster? Slash, were they the ones who told you? Oh man. I hope you have a lot of pie or snuggles nearby to feel better.

I mean, it's obviously a FirstWorldProblem and not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things, but I'm cringing thinking of how to go about fixing that.
[User Picture]From: suzermagoozer
2012-12-24 04:35 am (UTC)

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yeah, it gets worse. The people in florida are on vacay for at least another week.
i think we are going to get her mom to do us a solid and send the other stuff to colorado for us.

my sister in law informed us tonight that they got someone else's box.


it's verrrrrrrry cringeworthy.
[User Picture]From: suzermagoozer
2012-12-24 04:35 am (UTC)

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oh, and i am mostly upset that my neices and nephew won't get our gifts on time.

*kri kri*
[User Picture]From: ohohmeaghan
2012-12-24 04:38 am (UTC)

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yeah but they'll get bonus gifts after christmas and it will be extra exciting!
[User Picture]From: suzermagoozer
2012-12-24 04:41 am (UTC)

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this is how i will think about it.
thanks!
[User Picture]From: persiascarecrow
2012-12-24 04:43 am (UTC)

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my uncle got out of jail on friday after getting arrested at MIA for two counts of battery and resisting arrest. he's been doing really poorly since thanksgiving and it literally has my dad worried sick.
[User Picture]From: fleckerbug
2012-12-24 04:50 am (UTC)

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That doesn't sound so bad. Difficult, but not 'horrifying'. Why is he so worked up over it? This totally sucks for your sister. :/ I think I feel worse for the kids, though... forced to spend a big holiday with mom's/dad's new partner and their kid?? Oy.


Awkward, I don't know... upsetting maybe. I'm waiting to see if I got pregnant (I never ovulate naturally, but have started all of a sudden lately). I'm just trying to be happy that I ovulated at all and not obsess of whether I'm pregnant, but it's hard. Anyway... regardless of the outcome, I'd really rather not be faced with getting my period on Christmas Day. I haven't been too emotionally strong lately and just don't want to deal with that kind of blow, particularly given I've really been looking forward to this Christmas. OTOH, I could be getting the best Christmas present ever.
[User Picture]From: cianne
2012-12-24 05:04 am (UTC)

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i don't know if i'm reading this wrong or not, but i don't see anything particularly horrifying about this. essentially we have a boyfriend and girlfriend, each with children, and their respective parents. it's just one of those semi-awkward meetings between adults who are tied together through their family members.
[User Picture]From: theaftercath
2012-12-24 05:41 am (UTC)

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I suppose it's only "horrifying" in that, as far as the family knows, this is a "new" relationship. When the divorce bombshell dropped in August, my sister promptly moved out of her home and into her boyfriend's home, which is the first time any of us have heard of him. This will be the first time my dad and stepmom have met the boyfriend (though we've met his son, my sister brought him to my wedding in lieu of her husband, as he's friends with my nephew).

We're a pretty standard "super Christian by all rights, especially around each other, except clearly human and dysfunctional like any other typical group of people" so things like "marriage troubles" are kept under wraps until they explode. It's super healthy.
[User Picture]From: ironphoenix
2012-12-24 03:41 pm (UTC)

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Ooooooh, I see... I was wondering the same thing as cianne.

Keeping up appearances... causing drama since freaking forever!
[User Picture]From: cianne
2012-12-24 11:04 pm (UTC)

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ah, well, that does add a couple of layers of awkward.
[User Picture]From: schexyschteve
2012-12-24 05:34 am (UTC)

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My dad is supposed to be released from jail on Christmas day, so that should be plenty awkward.
[User Picture]From: theaftercath
2012-12-24 05:36 am (UTC)

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I wonder if wardens/whomever is in charge of that sort of thing take into account that a Christmas release would be more awkward than benevolent.
[User Picture]From: ironphoenix
2012-12-24 03:44 pm (UTC)

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They gift-wrap your personal effects, and bring you home in a squad car made up to look like Santa's sleigh!
[User Picture]From: hereisfar
2012-12-24 05:52 am (UTC)

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My step-dad's super religious, judgey conservative family is coming to my mom's house for Christmas Eve and I've already been warned they might be snobby to me and my significant other because of our jobs. I was trying to sleep last night and was so emotional from PMS/stress that I cried hysterically for like twenty minutes and got all riled up, then sent my mother a super long text basically saying we're good people and don't deserve to be treated badly because we want to spend holidays with our family. I warned her if anyone disrespected me I'd tell them off and storm out, so I'm concerned that might happen. Luckily my mother agreed with me and said if anyone needs to leave it won't be me and she backs me 100%. My mom is awesome.

My boyfriend's family should be easy but his brother's wife always has some snide comment about our work so that might end badly as well. I'm just stressed out thinking about all of it and just want to be happy and eat food and give presents.
[User Picture]From: theaftercath
2012-12-24 05:53 am (UTC)

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Well now I'm curious, what are your jobs?

I clearly want to judge you real hard rn.
From: 234_am
2012-12-24 06:43 am (UTC)

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Yah, I'm curious, too
[User Picture]From: hereisfar
2012-12-24 08:31 am (UTC)

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We work in an adult entertainment club.
[User Picture]From: dravvie
2012-12-24 06:14 am (UTC)

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All of my boyfriend's family is in town, and I'm living with him and one of his family members right now because of money woes, and I just feel like I'm under the microscope for the group of family that's staying with us, that's all "don't be like them" I mean, maybe they aren't. But Ugh. I'm also horribly shy, awkward, and hate spending time with my own family because it stresses me out, and spending time with someone else's family is sooo stressful. Especially Christmas and the day after because they're also doing this big ass wedding the day after. I'll be so fucking glad when it's next weekend and I can focus on our anniversary.
From: 234_am
2012-12-24 06:45 am (UTC)

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My BF and his family went to visit his dad in a max security prison. I am being pressured into meering him but we aren't sure what he has done (big family secret) and my morals are severely compromised o_O
[User Picture]From: angelas_apron
2012-12-24 12:57 pm (UTC)

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Has google given you any ideas to what he could be incarcerated for? I don't know what is like where you live, but in the states you can find any inmate on the department of corrections website and it will state what their conviction is.

Knowledge is power.
[User Picture]From: angelas_apron
2012-12-24 01:35 pm (UTC)

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Has google given you any ideas to what he could be incarcerated for? I don't know what is like where you live, but in the states you can find any inmate on the department of corrections website and it will state what their conviction is.

Knowledge is power.
[User Picture]From: syzygyalignsnow
2012-12-24 07:39 am (UTC)

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The only people who were not positive about whether or not we could be in Birmingham today to meet for Christmas were my father and I. Incidentally, we are the only ones who've made it.
[User Picture]From: grimalkinrn
2012-12-24 09:13 am (UTC)

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The last time I had my mother in law down for a meal after I'd worked all night, I was completely miserable. My mother in law made it worse by making all sorts of comments about my housekeeping whenever my husband left the room. I ended up going off on her in true JoAnne style. Over her demands for gravy, of all things. She could not eat any part of Thanksgiving dinner unless we had gravy.

This year, I had to work the night before Thanksgiving and the night of Thanksgiving, so I didn't have a dinner. I have to work night shift Christmas Eve and so I've refused to host a Christmas day dinner. Instead I've invited my mother-in-law down for New Year's Day, when I've had time to clean the house. I told my husband about this months ago and have reminded him repeatedly. I also sent my mother in law a WRITTEN INVITATION for New Year's Day. Still, my husband managed to screw it up and make plans for Christmas Day.

I found out yesterday that he'd made plans with his mother for Christmas day. The house isn't clean, and I am not cooking all day after working a 12 hour night shift ever again. I told him he's welcome to go see his mother, but that I would be sleeping after work and cooking a small, nice dinner when I woke up, but that we'll have a big, lovely meal on New Year's Day, as we had planned and agreed upon MONTHS AGO. Still, I'm the bad person here because I don't want to be up for 30 hours cooking and cleaning for his mother on a holiday.

[User Picture]From: angelas_apron
2012-12-24 12:59 pm (UTC)

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Ugh, stick to your guns on that one.
[User Picture]From: just_3_euros
2012-12-24 03:27 pm (UTC)

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Yes, seriously.
[User Picture]From: cianne
2012-12-24 11:07 pm (UTC)

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ha, i think i remember your story about MIL and the gravy. what a nut.
[User Picture]From: thunderflyer
2012-12-24 03:26 pm (UTC)

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All of my really awkward xmases are behind me, thankfully.

This is finally the year i get to cook dinner (at my folks' house because i live in a teeny tiny trailer). What's uncomfortable is Mamma is undergoing chemotherapy and this may be her last xmas. I have no idea how many or who all is coming to dinner.

What makes it all better, though, is knowing my ex is in jail and can't show up wearing his crazypants and try to stab my dad again while making wild accusations of my dad sexually abusing me and my daughters, and that Dad is a cuckold.

Like I said, the really awkward shit is behind us.
[User Picture]From: anchellada
2012-12-24 03:29 pm (UTC)

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well i my mother invited my boyfriends single mom over to celebrate christmas with all of us because she gets lonely around the holidays. it should be hilarious/awkward because:
a) shes an alcoholic (a funny drunk, but still)
b) she likes to smoke a lot of weed and i KNOW shes gonna try to sneak outside and smoke.
c) my mother has only hung out with her for 30 min at a time and doesnt know any of this about her.
d) my mother is the COMPLETE opposite. very religious and thinks alcohol and weed are works of the devil.

just thinking about tomorrows awkwardness is making me LOL.
[User Picture]From: lutine
2012-12-24 03:41 pm (UTC)

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My sister is pissed because she apparently believes that there was some massive conspiracy to keep her from attending my daughter's birth, my mom is pissed at my sister for being such an idiot, my cousin keeps telling everyone else in the family that I'm mad at her (I'm not) and ignoring her (she's actually ignoring me...) and won't talk to me herself but keeps trying to talk "through" other family members, and my aunt is running around telling everyone that my daughter and I are going to die of hemhorrage or sepsis because I'm a crazy hippy who didn't give birth in a hospital.
[User Picture]From: xopiateslavex
2012-12-25 02:49 am (UTC)

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Congrats on the baby! I hadn't read that you'd had it until now. <3
[User Picture]From: lutine
2012-12-25 06:07 am (UTC)

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Thanks. :) She's three days old.
[User Picture]From: xopiateslavex
2012-12-25 07:22 am (UTC)

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Aww, nice. :D Congrats to all!
[User Picture]From: snailrevolution
2012-12-24 04:36 pm (UTC)

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Last night I went to the airport with my dad to pick up my sister. He kept trying to talk to me about politics. We are on opposite ends of the political spectrum and I'm not really interested in engaging, so that was a bit miserable. Then, he started asking me about my brother and if he's got a girlfriend yet. He is very obviously fishing for an answer to a question he doesn't want to ask outright. I just wish instead of of doing this, he'd just go and ask my brother what he wants to know. So far I manage to dodge this by saying "Well, you know him~ Human companionship just irritates him soooo..." Yeah, a touch awkward.

Tonight, Christmas Eve with my dad and step-family. Step-mom and -brother are pretty cool, but my step-sister is an ignorant moron and being around her is awkward and annoying. My sister hasn't slept since Saturday and my brother has been up since last night. I suspect their brain-to-mouth filters will be down. My fiance also has little patience for her but since he's had a good night's sleep may be able to handle it politely. :p
[User Picture]From: jediknightmuse
2012-12-24 06:03 pm (UTC)

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There's usually at least one awkward thing that happens at my dad's house for holidays (or even non-holidays, really), because of things his fiance says/does. It's also awkward with her two sons and their respective fiance and girlfriend, though it's not always TOO bad. Example: on Thanksgiving, my dad was basically doing the dishes after dinner by himself, other than me helping to dry them. He basically interrupted his fiance's conversation with her two sons and their respective fiance and girlfriend and my sister to basically say "hey, I want some help and don't want to do this by myself." I forget what my dad's fiance said but she was basically just kind of rude and didn't seem to understand what my father was trying to say.

So my sister said something like "do you want some help, dad?" to make his fiance look bad (because seriously, she pulls that kind of crap a lot and she deserves it). But there was a few moments of silence before my sister said that where it was awkward. I'm sure there will be something similar to that tomorrow.

Edited at 2012-12-24 06:04 pm (UTC)
[User Picture]From: purplepuffygirl
2012-12-24 06:46 pm (UTC)

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My husband and I are not talking to his mom at the moment. So this will be our first Christmas in 8 years that we haven't spent with her. We didn't see her for Thanksgiving either. I think my husband will be sad. I'm glad my brother and his girlfriend are coming up to spend Christmas Day with us, hopefully it'll keep my husband's mind occupied.