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So...a few years ago I decided to quit smoking by taking Chantix.  They were horrible pills, but they worked.  By quitting smoking, and starting a 9-5 (sitting all day), and getting into a car accident (being injured, no exercise), I gained about 80 pounds from my lowest weight.

I am getting married next summer.  I have talked to a trainer who will train with you 3x/week and put you on a nutritional plan and design an exercise plan for days that you are not training together.  Goal of this being: losing 50-70 pounds by August 1.

Here's the clincher:  My mom will pay for it all ($5k), if I sign a contract stating that I will take this program seriously, and to really try hard at losing the weight.  In this contract it would also state that if I should gain weight, then I would owe her the $5k back.

What do y'all think of this?  Would you do something like this?


**this would be my second time doing a program like this.  the trainer was awesome, but i wasn't exercising on my off days and not watching what i ate and i still lost 20 pounds!
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[User Picture]From: gabardinedreams
2012-12-21 05:03 am (UTC)

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I would do it. 80lbs overweight is a lot of wiggle room.. I think the first few pounds will come off easily so it sounds like a safe bet.
I would do the slow-carb diet from The 4 Hour Body that shit is fool proof.

Good luck, if you go for it!
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[User Picture]From: plugmebaby
2012-12-21 05:23 am (UTC)

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yeah ia.

btw, op: look into clean eating (no processed food, refined carbs/sugars, lots of fresh veggies, lean protein, and complex carbs). its really simple and for those who are seeking to lose quite a lot of weight, the first few pounds come off easily.

im skinny and i didnt even stick to it strictly and lost a few kilos. i bought the clean eating guide online and it came with tips, advice for food substitutes, recipes, grocery list, etc. if you want it i can email it to you as they're just pdf files and i've sent it to a couple of girls on here already.

good luck!
[User Picture]From: apa_grapa
2012-12-21 06:04 am (UTC)

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I'm not the OP, but I'd be interested in that guide! The hardest part I still have with eating healthy is with meal planning and recipes and shopping! I was raised on fast food, so I never learned how to do that stuff and I grasp at anything that can help!
[User Picture]From: plugmebaby
2012-12-22 04:12 am (UTC)

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go ahead - please do pm me your email !
[User Picture]From: apa_grapa
2013-02-11 03:37 am (UTC)

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Hey, I was wondering if you ever got internet back! I'm still interested in your clean eating info :] Even at 24, having never learned how to shop or eat properly, I try to get all the (correct/good) information about it that I can. It was nice of you to offer before, and I really hope I'm not being pushy!
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[User Picture]From: devon_carrots
2012-12-21 06:06 am (UTC)

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i'm not the op but i would love if you could send me that guide too! (dontforgettheshoes@gmail.com)
[User Picture]From: gigglesqueak
2012-12-21 06:38 am (UTC)

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I'd love to get my hands on that guide if you wouldn't mind :3 I need to lose 30+kg (66+lbs) by September 2013
email is: admin at performancecentral dot com dot au
[User Picture]From: x_quotethis_x
2012-12-21 07:08 am (UTC)

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Echoing the others...I'd also love a copy of that, if possible! If you are able to send it, let me know and I could pm you my email address :-)
[User Picture]From: plugmebaby
2012-12-22 04:12 am (UTC)

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go ahead - please do pm me your email !
[User Picture]From: grrillaesthete
2012-12-21 07:14 am (UTC)

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Can you count me in on the myriad voices wanting the clean eating guide? My email address is guerrillaaesthete at gmail dot com
[User Picture]From: blue_marker
2012-12-21 08:01 am (UTC)

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Can you count me in on that as well? :) I'll pm you my address, if that's alright with you!
[User Picture]From: plugmebaby
2012-12-22 04:15 am (UTC)

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go ahead - please do pm me your email !
[User Picture]From: blue_marker
2012-12-21 08:01 am (UTC)

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Can I count me in on that as well? :) I'll pm you my address, if that's alright with you!
[User Picture]From: longerdecember
2012-12-21 08:07 am (UTC)

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Will you PM this to me?
[User Picture]From: longerdecember
2012-12-21 08:08 am (UTC)

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or email at angieontherocks@gmail.com
[User Picture]From: crackthesafe
2012-12-21 02:45 pm (UTC)

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Going to add my voice to the masses--I'd love the guide! ailleann@gmail.com
[User Picture]From: miss_almost
2012-12-21 05:24 pm (UTC)

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cant hurt to ask - if youre willing please send. lowexpectationslj@gmail.com
[User Picture]From: heymaybebaby
2012-12-22 05:33 am (UTC)

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I'm interested in the guide as well! sendingtherainyourway@yahoo.com :)
[User Picture]From: ohohmeaghan
2012-12-21 05:33 am (UTC)

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i would not spend $5,000 to lose weight and i would definitely not let anyone else to spend that money on my weightloss.
[User Picture]From: lrio
2012-12-21 07:51 am (UTC)

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Yes, this x 1000. It just sounds like a terrible idea and will probably lead to tears.

5k sounds like it's extremely overpriced too.

[User Picture]From: crackthesafe
2012-12-21 02:46 pm (UTC)

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Allll of this. $5k? Whoa. There's no way that's the going market rate--that's ridiculous!
[User Picture]From: ohohmeaghan
2012-12-21 04:18 pm (UTC)

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seriously. it's one thing if it's gastric bypass or something else where you need to take extreme measures to save your life, but 80 pounds is not worth $5,000.
[User Picture]From: vitaestiter
2012-12-21 06:31 pm (UTC)

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Came here to say this. You can do it on your own for free.
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[User Picture]From: e_y_d
2012-12-21 05:43 am (UTC)

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I think you need to get a lot more specific about the terms of the "contract", like for example what does "if I should gain weight I'll owe it back" really mean? What kind of weight gain EXACTLY would it take to break the deal (where is the line drawn as far as number of lbs gained -- 2lbs? 10lbs? 40lbs? And would it mean gaining weight from what you are NOW or gaining weight back after you've already lost some or what? How long do you need to keep the weight off? etc). And you should be more specific about your goals, beyond "lose x lbs in x weeks" and "try really hard". Keep logs of your food consumption, workouts, etc.

But yeah I think it's a pretty sweet deal.
[User Picture]From: marievignette
2012-12-21 06:28 am (UTC)

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this
so much this, the contract is a little funny sounding to me, and i'm pretty sure my mom would get really overbearing about my weight, my food, my exercise, etc... like since she paid for me to lose it, she owned that part of me.
[User Picture]From: longerdecember
2012-12-21 08:09 am (UTC)

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I would do it.. But with the caveat that I would be able to pay her back in reasonable increments if I did not manage to lose weight.
[User Picture]From: ___tornprincess
2012-12-21 08:28 am (UTC)

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I wouldn't do this because I think that $5,000 sounds like an absurd amount of money to lose around 25kg. I also think that it would be very easy to gain the weight back once finishing with the trainer. I lost 25kg in three months by just eating properly, no exercising, and it actually saved me money. However, if you feel this is the best way to get what you want, go for it.
[User Picture]From: pickleboot
2012-12-21 09:09 am (UTC)

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i am going to say this as someone who has lost a huge amount of weight- do not sign that contract. you are, in essence, giving up the right to your body, and that just seems so wrong to me. i can understand being concerned about the cost of a trainer and gym membership, but so many health insurance companies offer incredibly cheap or free memberships to partner gyms with trainers included in the policy. i would look into that first. i would also speak with your primary care doctor about this and see if they have resources for you that would give you the same kind of support but also give you access to a registered dietician who can help you with meal planning and the like that will work best for you, and your doctor will also be best able to tell you what kind of exercise and diet and all of that will work and if it is reasonable to lose 80lbs and maintain that over a set amount of time.

it took me the better part of 6 years to lose the bulk of 200lbs, and i lost about 50 of it in the last year due to serious changes in my diet.

in the end it is up to you what you do, but if you opt to do the contract with your mom, i think that you need to make sure that you both understand that maintaining the weight loss is going to require on going gym membership, and that you might in the future gain weight should you choose to have children, so what length of time are you going to keep the weight off? i guess the whole contract thing bugs me, but i also have a parent who was incredibly critical of my body, so there's that.
[User Picture]From: elsewhereangel
2012-12-21 10:13 am (UTC)

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I wish you luck whichever way you go (and I would certainly be tempted!) but weddings can be so stressful that they often swing your weight one way or the other. I agree with the poster who said to get the terms as nailed down as possible before you agree to anything.
[User Picture]From: failstoexist
2012-12-21 11:25 am (UTC)

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I would never ever do this deal. Because to do this deal with my mother would be like selling my soul to her.

She is paying for weight watchers online for me, though I kind of stopped using it and might switch it so she pays my gym membership instead. But that is on the condition that she NEVER asks me how it's going, and does not comment about it if she perceives I'm not following it strictly. I've lost around 30 pounds this year, gained a bit back (about 6-10) for a short time, lost it again, and am now on a new gym schedule where I go much more often. However, I would never promise not to gain back weight with a $5k penalty for doing so. That would be way too much stress for me, and the more stressed I am, the more I gain.

My mom wouldn't be able to leave it alone. I think the parameters for repayment are too loose. I think you need to change the contract before you sign it.
[User Picture]From: commabut
2012-12-21 11:25 am (UTC)

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No I would not... I think it's a waste of money. I also don't think it's a good idea to associate exercising and weight loss with financial pressure and your mom's expectations. The terms of the contract bother me. I'd be upset if my mom ever proposed something like this contact. I can understand her reservations if she paid for it before and you didn't really take advantage of it, but in the case then she should just say no. The terms definitely need to be refined, in any case.
[User Picture]From: fleckerbug
2012-12-21 12:20 pm (UTC)

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I might do it, but it sounds fucked up. It's one thing if they say they'll stop paying for it if you don't take it seriously, but I wouldn't board one board for something that's all up front and I think a contract like that would make it harder to lose weight (kinda like I usually fall off calorie/point counting diets because the process gets tedious and anxiety-producing).

This reminds me of someone I know who was having difficulty finding a dress; she and her mom bought an inexpensive 'back up' dress and then turned it into "we'll buy you a new dress if you go down two sizes" thing. This same person lost a bit of weight during her first pregnancy and they treated it like a good thing and were worried about her gaining it back (while still pregnant) *eye roll*.
[User Picture]From: cindyanne1
2012-12-21 12:36 pm (UTC)

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I think it sounds like a horrible thing to do and tell someone. Weight loss programs have a terrible track record of permanant results, and to hold over someone's head if they gain weight back (how much? Five pounds? Ten? All of it?) then they'd owe $5000 is setting up a bad situation, imo.

Also, what is the time frame here? If you keep it off a week? Month? Year? Ten years? How long would she hold that over your head?

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[User Picture]From: crackthesafe
2012-12-21 02:48 pm (UTC)

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I think it sounds like an awful idea tbh. $5k seems waaaay overpriced, and how many pounds is this contract going to stipulate that you can't gain back? 5, 10, 15? Over what period of time? Are you NEVER allowed to gain back 10 pounds or you're going to have to pay $5k?? Even if it's not that crazy, it just does NOT sound like a good idea.
[User Picture]From: nynaeve_sedai
2012-12-21 03:34 pm (UTC)

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Eh. Only if there were a stipulated end date to the 'weight gain' part (like if I keep it off a year then boom, done, the end) and at least a 5lb wiggle room clause (what does that look like? Sustained weight gain?). I dislike strings attached - I mean I could see it if you have a habit of flaking out, but if you're generally reliable, why the stipulations? Plus it's difficult to lose weight and keep it off in general. Even I lost 55lbs after my first kid and managed to keep it off for a year or so, but when my husband lost his job, I gained about 15lbs back. Now I'm preggo again, so I'll focus on losing that pesky 15lbs after the baby is born. To me though, that still made my weight loss a success (I've been this weight now for about four years, so I gained the 15lbs and then maintained for four years). I know how to eat healthy etc and so forth.
[User Picture]From: whataspacecase
2012-12-21 03:46 pm (UTC)

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The quantity of money is irrelevant here, IMO, the only thing that matters is how committed you are to this process: if you're committed, it will work, and it's important to realize that a process that works for you is far more valuable than pretty much anything else. That said, it really helps to have someone else doing the same to hold you accountable and to provide moral support. does this trainer have any other clients you could do workouts/network with?
[User Picture]From: verygwen
2012-12-22 12:10 am (UTC)

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I would not do it if I would owe the money back.