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TQC, did you ever fantasize about your wedding as a kid? Like, the kind of dress you would want, the colors, etc? How does what you think you'd want for your wedding now differ from what you wanted back then?
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[User Picture]From: xiu
2012-12-19 06:47 pm (UTC)

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I never gave it a single thought. Still haven't even when prompted haha. Not that I wouldn't want to get married.
[User Picture]From: pirahan
2012-12-19 06:47 pm (UTC)

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Yeah lol. I remember in 3rd grade talking about it with my friends and I wanted a purple dress with blue and green details. Ew!

At my wedding I wore black leggings and a flowery shirt with green and blue dots with white flowers, so I guess it sort of was what I once pictured.
From: saloonperfume
2012-12-19 06:51 pm (UTC)

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Well, that dress would have been ew, but at least it wasn't satin!
[User Picture]From: saikaro_x
2012-12-19 06:48 pm (UTC)

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Eh, not really. Every now and then I'll see a really pretty wedding gown on TV and I'll be like, "THAT'S THE DRESS I WANT FOR MY WEDDING!!" but that's about it haha.
[User Picture]From: xiu
2012-12-19 06:49 pm (UTC)

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Love your icon.
[User Picture]From: saikaro_x
2012-12-19 07:16 pm (UTC)

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ty! tis the season. ;)
From: saloonperfume
2012-12-19 06:50 pm (UTC)

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As a kid I wanted to wear my mother's wedding dress, which had also been my grandma's, but that's about as far as I got, I think. It was a long, vintage white dress with a ton of lacy detail, and was actually quite pretty.

These days I'm kind of adverse to marriage, but if I did get hitched, I'd want a small wedding and I'd just want to wear a white cocktail dress or something, with colored shoes, like pale pink or purple, something I could wear again. And I'd want my colors to be either white and olive, or white, purple, and grey. And my bridesmaids would dress accordingly (although I think I'd rather be like, go pick out a dress that fits with the color theme so it's something you feel comfortable in, just have it approved by me first).
[User Picture]From: shinygobonkers
2012-12-19 06:51 pm (UTC)

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Nope, never.
[User Picture]From: rainbowstevie
2012-12-19 06:52 pm (UTC)

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Not even a little bit. As an adult now I sometimes like to browse wedding dresses online, but otherwise, weddings are just expensive parties, and parties are dull.
[User Picture]From: anchellada
2012-12-19 06:57 pm (UTC)

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i dont remember how i thought of my future wedding as a kid, but i assume its somewhat the same now since i'd like it to be kind of "princess-ey" as in i want a big poofy sparkly gown lol
[User Picture]From: sblmnldrknss
2012-12-19 06:57 pm (UTC)

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Yes. But I was very conflicted. Because I wanted a big, Hollywood wedding but grew up Mormon, where you have a private wedding ceremony that isn't grand at all.

So I guess I just threw in the towel and had no wedding. My former employer was a wedding celebrant and she married my husband and I in her kitchen, with her partner as the witness. It was very insignificant.
[User Picture]From: noodledays
2012-12-19 08:58 pm (UTC)

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that's interesting to me you grew up Mormon, seeing as I live in the land of "Zion" - do you mind if I ask where you grew up?
[User Picture]From: sblmnldrknss
2012-12-20 12:59 am (UTC)

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Ooh, fun! I grew up in Alabama, Texas, and then Virginia. I have an aunt in Utah, but that's it.
[User Picture]From: noodledays
2012-12-20 01:02 am (UTC)

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if your aunt lives in northern Utah and your family likes snow sports, I hope you're able to make visits to her during the winter months. :)
[User Picture]From: sblmnldrknss
2012-12-20 02:43 am (UTC)

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She lives near Logan. I'm not really sure where that is within the state. I haven't been there since 2001, pre marriage and pre kids.
[User Picture]From: noodledays
2012-12-20 04:25 pm (UTC)

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that's very far north. :) it's the largest town of any size before the Utah-Idaho border.
[User Picture]From: just_3_euros
2012-12-19 06:59 pm (UTC)

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I didn't actually..... now I feel weird. I dunno. I was very independant, even as a child, perhaps I was okay with the thought of not getting married.
[User Picture]From: loveandbees
2012-12-19 07:01 pm (UTC)

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Not at all as a child. I now know what hymns and anthems I would have sung there, but only because I really like planning (usually imaginary) music playlists.
[User Picture]From: verygwen
2012-12-19 07:01 pm (UTC)

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Nope, never.
[User Picture]From: noachoc
2012-12-19 07:12 pm (UTC)

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No, I didn't, and it made planning the damn thing a bitch because I didn't have anything to work from besides a couple of weddings I'd been to that served as inspiration.

Turned out really well regardless.
[User Picture]From: noodledays
2012-12-19 09:00 pm (UTC)

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I think a lack of daydreams or prior wedding thoughts can have both advantages and disadvantages - when you don't have your heart set on a bunch of details already, it can mean more flexibility and easier planning that way. :)
[User Picture]From: noachoc
2012-12-19 09:07 pm (UTC)

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True, and we did end up with a pretty awesome wedding. It did mean, though, that by the time the fifteenth person asked me, two days after I'd gotten engaged, what my wedding colors were, I nearly started breaking things.
[User Picture]From: noodledays
2012-12-19 09:09 pm (UTC)

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hahaha, I don't blame you - the notions some people have when it comes to weddings and the planning that "must" go into them beforehand (even before an engagement) can seem pretty silly.
[User Picture]From: sterek
2012-12-19 07:15 pm (UTC)

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Nope.
[User Picture]From: obfuscate
2012-12-19 07:36 pm (UTC)

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Not really. As I got older, I thought about certain details, like the jewelry and the dress, but never really that much. Which worked out, since we had a courthouse wedding, with me wearing a discount dress from Sears and an inexpensive titanium ring (both of which I love!). I'll still coo over wedding dresses sometimes, but I'm glad mine was simple.
[User Picture]From: onedotfour
2012-12-19 07:38 pm (UTC)

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Nope, then I got married and I still didnt know. My husband had to plan the whole thing and pick out my dress.
[User Picture]From: judaskiss
2012-12-19 07:41 pm (UTC)

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No. Even today, I don't think about weddings. If I got married, I'd be fine with just going to the courthouse.
[User Picture]From: gabardinedreams
2012-12-19 07:49 pm (UTC)

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nope. i do have friends who had shoeboxes full of wedding ideas while single etc. but for me weddings were never anything to think about. i watch more say yes to the dress than is normal.. but i think it's less of a wedding/dress obsession and more of a randy obsession haha.

i've thought about it a bit now that i'm older and i was in a long term relationship that was on track to engagement before we BLEW IT UP WITH DYNAMITE. i'm not entirely sure if i'd want to have a big wedding or a wedding at all, but if i did i know what kind of party i'd want, what song i'd like to hear, etc.
[User Picture]From: everystarrfall
2012-12-19 07:55 pm (UTC)

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Yeah, I always wanted a big poofy princess style dress. I'd still like a big flowy dress, maybe with lots of pickups. And pockets. I've always loved gardenias so I suppose I'd at least work those into my bouquet or something. When I was a bit younger I wanted a black and white wedding, or maybe black, white, and red. Nowadays I'd either go with that or maybe do teal and silver or teal and copper? The past few years I've grown to really love teal. I might not ever get married but I'd like to and I used to think about it a lot when I was a kid.
[User Picture]From: briansue
2012-12-19 08:15 pm (UTC)

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Never. My parents did not have an inspiring relationship and I had no interest in weddings at all. The only thought I had was how I didn't want my father to walk me down the aisle, so getting married seemed like way more stress than it was worth.
[User Picture]From: futurenurselady
2012-12-19 08:24 pm (UTC)

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Not at all.

It actually made me a very mellow bride, since as long as the planning was simple I didn't have any preconceptions about what things should look like et cetera.
[User Picture]From: lutine
2012-12-19 08:44 pm (UTC)

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No, I never did as a child. I did have COMPLETELY different views on weddings from my first to my second, though. I kinda cringe at some of the stuff I did for my first wedding.
[User Picture]From: kitschyduck
2012-12-19 09:00 pm (UTC)

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Never.

I only got into weddings after I had mine. It was the best day ever and I had no idea just how awesome it would be! I just hated the planning. The day was amazing though.
[User Picture]From: myste_uk
2012-12-19 10:03 pm (UTC)

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I never did. It made organising my wedding pretty easy, since neither I nor my husband had any preconceived ideas of what we wanted, so it just kind of evolved as we went through the process of organising it.
[User Picture]From: schexyschteve
2012-12-19 10:37 pm (UTC)

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I don't remember ever thinking about my wedding when I was little. I didn't start thinking about weddings and marriage until I started dating my husband.
[User Picture]From: dudewhatthefuuu
2012-12-19 10:52 pm (UTC)

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I actually have never fantasized about my wedding, or really wanted to get married. The closest I've come to that was playing MASH haha
[User Picture]From: oneworldvision
2012-12-19 11:20 pm (UTC)

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Nope. Weirdly, I fantasized about having a Sweet 16... and then when the time came I didn't even have one. I regretted it for a few years afterwards but now I don't really care.
[User Picture]From: un_attra
2012-12-19 11:21 pm (UTC)

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All the time. I couldn't wait to be married so I planned everything. Changed as the years went by, but I always had a "dream" (and realistic) wedding planed out....ever since I was five, I think.
[User Picture]From: bellapalmera
2012-12-20 03:47 am (UTC)

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I never thought about it as a kid, beyond when I was like 5 and thought I wanted to get married when I was 37. If God's cruel joke to me is making sure that happens, I'm gonna be kinda mad. (I'm 29.)

I thought about it once I thought I was going to be marrying someone. Now that that didn't work out, I have different ideas for it since I don't want to use the ones I associate with him. =P