I'm attempting to have a surprise birthday dinner for my husband tonight. I invited ten of his friends and four of my friends that he gets along with really well. Two of my friends are coming and three of his friends are coming to the dinner, with five more of his friends saying they can't make the dinner but will try to show up afterwards. What is the liklihood that any of these five friends will show up? Should I just give up on the whole birthday dinner thing since the turnout is going to be fairly low? Should I just try to organize getting together at a bar after dinner and have that be the surprise? Should I even bother with the surprise anyway? My husband's friends are notoriously lame, three of the five said they were coming to our wedding and then just didn't show up.