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Have you ever gotten back with an ex after time apart? How long? Did it work out?
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[User Picture]From: r4wrdinosaur
2012-12-11 01:04 am (UTC)

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My fiance and I are high school sweethearts. We broke up after he graduate and went to college. It last about 4 months. We both dated other people. End up getting back together, and have been together ever since. We've been together 4 years since the break up (and had been together about a year and a half before the breakup).

Now that I'm really thinking about it, those times feel wrong. But whatever, that's the basics. We'll be celebrating 7 years in April and we don't "count" the breakup when thinking about anniversaries (We use the original date).

Edited at 2012-12-11 01:06 am (UTC)
[User Picture]From: nestofcrows
2012-12-11 01:20 am (UTC)

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After 3 years of dating, we broke up for a month. We are now married and have been together for 8 years.
[User Picture]From: blue_marker
2012-12-11 01:52 am (UTC)

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Yes.
10 months.
No.
[User Picture]From: piperki
2012-12-11 02:05 am (UTC)

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Once, after three months, and eventually it did not work out.
[User Picture]From: feeeny
2012-12-11 02:15 am (UTC)

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no, and i don't foresee that type of scenario working out for me anyway. when i break up with someone, it's usually because my feelings have changed. for me, once something dies i can't make it live again.
[User Picture]From: obfuscate
2012-12-11 02:24 am (UTC)

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My ex and I had a blowout of a breakup and didn't speak for nearly five years. He got back in contact with me and we started seeing each other again, but it just didn't work out.

My husband and I dated for a year, broke up for six months, then started seeing each other casually again. And, well... he's my husband now.
[User Picture]From: tamaracat
2012-12-11 02:27 am (UTC)

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Yes. Four months. It worked out great. We've been married over a year.
[User Picture]From: r0ck_y0ur_s0ul
2012-12-11 02:28 am (UTC)

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Yes.
We broke up for short periods of time a couple of times since we got together (may 2007). We were both mentally not capable of a romantic relationship but remained friends throughout. We've been back together for a solid three years (after both of us had a lot of therapy) and are having our wedding in June.
[User Picture]From: gabardinedreams
2012-12-11 03:42 am (UTC)

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Yes, we had a couple breakups the longest one lasting maybe a month or two. We are broken up again so it's not really working out but there is still talk of "maybe someday" but maybe that is just the freshness of the breakup speaking.
[User Picture]From: running_jumping
2012-12-11 05:22 am (UTC)

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Yes
5 months
no
[User Picture]From: oh_honestly_
2012-12-11 06:17 am (UTC)

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Hm, if you count being broken up for two weeks as a breakup, then yes.

Although during that time, neither of us changed our relationship on Facebook (LOL) or dated other people, so there's that. We were just too sad being apart.

Now we're married!
[User Picture]From: pandorathewise
2012-12-11 09:15 am (UTC)

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Yes, but I only did it once. I have a pretty strict "no looking back, when it's over it's over" policy. But we got back together after a year apart, and within a year we were married. Still married.
[User Picture]From: loveandbees
2012-12-11 01:18 pm (UTC)

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My ex and I used to break up every week or so, it was a bit ridiculous. The longest we spent apart before getting back together was two weeks or so, and we only didn't get back together sooner because I was on holiday at the time.
In short, no it didn't work. We loved each other and couldn't stand to be apart, but also hated each other a lot of the time. We were an awful couple and should have broken up far sooner.
[User Picture]From: orionrogue
2012-12-11 05:12 pm (UTC)

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I dated a girl in college for a year or so before we broke up. A couple years later we caught up and started dating again. A couple years later we got engaged.

No it didn't work out.
[User Picture]From: kengwen
2012-12-11 08:07 pm (UTC)

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Yes. Numerous times, from days to months. Never. She's my best friend now, but the "relationship" totally did not work out.
I think there should be a general rule against getting back together after breaking up/taking time apart. Maybe one time okay but after that... I've heard someone say leaving a relationship is like tipping a refrigerator (or vending machine or something), that you have to rock it, and a couple times it'll almost fall but then rock back. That's what it looks like is happening when people break up and get back together repeatedly, like it's inevitable that the final separation is going to happen, it's just going to take a few more tries first.