Tessa (oohscranton) wrote in thequestionclub,
My SO and I have hectic schedules and I have noticed we're drifting apart. What can we do to bring back the closeness we once had?
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radley

December 8 2012, 00:46:05 UTC 5 months ago

make a point to clear your schedules at specific times so that you can dedicate that time to spending time together.

kaelstra

December 8 2012, 00:47:28 UTC 5 months ago

Schedule specific times/dates to spend time together.

Hectics schedules pretty much drove my first husband and I apart. He was days, I worked third shift to support the family while he went to school. I barely saw him.

holdlife

December 8 2012, 00:50:06 UTC 5 months ago

My boyfriend and I don't get to see each other very often, so we had our bosses give us the same two days off during the week so we have time to spend together.

ellelelle

December 8 2012, 00:54:55 UTC 5 months ago

a road trip.. like they do in films..

I'm not sure to be honest, but some projects/adventures/activities/enterprises together might be a good start.

verygwen

December 8 2012, 01:06:24 UTC 5 months ago

Make a point of having a date night every week.

hereisfar

December 8 2012, 01:37:08 UTC 5 months ago

I echo the date night every week. Make sure you are spending actual quality time together, not just sharing a room and space. Plan to go out to dinner or a movie; make dinner, build a puzzle, have sex in the backseat of your car, whatever. I used to live with a couple that would have "date night" which involved him playing video games with a headset on and her playing on facebook for a few hours. They completely ignored eachother the entire time and then she would complain about feeling like they weren't spending time together....because they weren't. How can you feel close to someone you treat like a piece of furniture?

Try to have a date night at least once a week if you can on whatever day both of you can make time for each other. If you don't have the time once a week you might need to change your schedules slightly to keep your relationship close. On days you can't spend a lot of time together do little gestures when you can. Call eachother on your lunch break, leave cute notes on the bathroom mirror, bring home his favorite dessert after a long day. Make sure there's a regular flow of "I am spending time with you" or "I am thinking of you."

bad_lcuk

December 8 2012, 01:39:54 UTC 5 months ago

Takes two to tango. You can only voice your concern and take action from your side of things :( Scheduling time together is a good first step (as well as communication).

pastorlenny

December 8 2012, 02:59:43 UTC 5 months ago

Endure tragedy.

wristtattoos

December 8 2012, 07:22:00 UTC 5 months ago

Be grateful you're not 1300 miles away from him.