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Would you be miffed if someone bought you a holiday gift with their credit card reward points, or a gift card someone gave you, or something similar?

I have about $100 in reward points saved up and it'll really help me cut costs on Christmas shopping. However my friend seems to think that makes me cheap, because i am not *technically* spending any money on the gifts. But that's $100 I could have spent on myself. What do you think?
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[User Picture]From: phenomenal
2012-11-29 10:38 pm (UTC)

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No? First off, as the person receiving the gift I would have no idea how it was paid for. Secondly, buying gifts isn't about and shouldn't be about how much into debt you need to go to buy them. If you can do it frugally, I see nothing wrong with that.
[User Picture]From: nynaeve_sedai
2012-11-30 03:05 am (UTC)

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Agreed. I don't usually go snooping to find out how people buy my gifts.

The only person that was ever offensive was my grandmother, but to be fair, she was digging out lightly used things from the bottom of her closet. Things my family has received: Lightly used tennis shoes. A gold sequined purse from like 1970. One earring. Half eaten dessert. A Dear Abby clipping about premarital sex from 1990.

I wish I could blame mental faculties, but I couldn't.
[User Picture]From: manderleys
2012-11-29 10:38 pm (UTC)

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It's not cheap and I wouldn't be upset. Your friends sound extremely rude tbh
[User Picture]From: hipslikehell
2012-11-29 11:26 pm (UTC)

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this
[User Picture]From: dawgdays
2012-11-29 10:40 pm (UTC)

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First, neither your friend nor the giftee needs to know. Second, you earned those points, right? You can use them for whatever you want.

Edited at 2012-11-29 10:40 pm (UTC)
[User Picture]From: bangogirl
2012-11-29 10:41 pm (UTC)

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Um, wow. Your friend is very rude. It doesn't matter if you got something for free (or with rewards points, which isn't even "free"!) and gifted it to someone, as long as the thought is there and you know that they would like it. Giving a gift is not about making sure the person giving it is put out of money? I don't get where your friend is coming from. I'm sure they hate homemade gifts too. Sheesh.
[User Picture]From: boplenty
2012-11-29 10:44 pm (UTC)

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Your "friend" is just looking for something to dump on you about. Of course you are using your resources to get the gift, there is no difference.
[User Picture]From: oh_honestly_
2012-11-29 10:45 pm (UTC)

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How would they know if you got their gift for free? And no, I wouldn't be mad in the slightest. In fact, I would be impressed that they are thrifty.

Your friend sounds like a jerk.
[User Picture]From: kadevha
2012-11-29 10:46 pm (UTC)

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I agree with everyone else. Like you, we had about as much in rewards and it bought several things with it. Your friend needs to get a clue.
[User Picture]From: ticktockman
2012-11-29 10:47 pm (UTC)

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Give your friend a picture you made with your very own hands, using crayons and paper you bought with your very own money at the dollar store.

*daha*

[User Picture]From: noodledays
2012-11-29 11:19 pm (UTC)

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for such a friend, I think this is fantastic idea. :D
[User Picture]From: noodledays
2012-11-29 10:47 pm (UTC)

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I truly can't imagine being miffed at such a thing.
[User Picture]From: kill_inhibition
2012-11-29 10:49 pm (UTC)

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It's fine.
[User Picture]From: lmnmeringue
2012-11-29 10:50 pm (UTC)

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I see nothing wrong with it. You earned those points. They are yours and you are giving them to someone else when you could keep it for yourself. Its the same as if you spent money. Also, how would anyone know in the first place?
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2012-11-29 10:50 pm (UTC)

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LOL Not at all! I dont care how they get the gift, the fact that they got me something is awesome!
[User Picture]From: hatefatwhores
2012-11-29 10:54 pm (UTC)

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What!?! How would anyone even know the difference if you used your points?? In my opinion, points are just like money. What a weird thing to be upset about.
[User Picture]From: bangpoppop
2012-11-29 10:58 pm (UTC)

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She right that it's not money, but it is some form of currency and you earned it. So why not use it on the people you care about?
I would love if my friend did that for me tbh. People usually use it on themselves so, the fact that you thought to use it on me is great. Besides, you don't have to tell anyone that you bought the gifts with your points if they ask.
[User Picture]From: starrchilde
2012-11-29 11:00 pm (UTC)

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Not at all, it's the thought that counts and you certainly didn't have to get a gift with those points. Realistically, it's no different than paying cash, IMO.

That said, your friends sound very rude for voicing the opinion. They're lucky to get anything.
[User Picture]From: tamaracat
2012-11-29 11:00 pm (UTC)

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Not cheap at all. Sounds like a good idea to me, actually. Now I want to check to see if I have any reward points.
[User Picture]From: myste_uk
2012-11-29 11:06 pm (UTC)

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I think your friend sounds pretty rude and entitled. How you pay for stuff doesn't matter - it's great that you are organised enough with your finances so that you have these reward points to offset some of the expense of Xmas, to be honest. Well done you, and it's not cheap in any sense of the word.
[User Picture]From: verygwen
2012-11-29 11:07 pm (UTC)

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Why would I know how a person paid for a gift?
[User Picture]From: kaelstra
2012-11-29 11:09 pm (UTC)

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Also this. I wouldn't exactly tell a lot of people about it.
[User Picture]From: verygwen
2012-11-29 11:20 pm (UTC)

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Right. Why would I go telling people how'd I'd paid for their gifts.. and why would someone ask?

(And, honestly, I'd be more upset to find out someone had gone into debt to buy me something than to find out they'd used points.)

Edited at 2012-11-29 11:21 pm (UTC)
[User Picture]From: failstoexist
2012-11-29 11:08 pm (UTC)

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If it enables you to buy more/nicer/whatever gifts for others, or enables you to buy gifts for more people, then DO IT. if not, then you can afford to technically spend that money on you and other money on someone else.

As long as you're getting something the recipient wants and not just whatever crap you can get free, you're in the clear.
[User Picture]From: kaelstra
2012-11-29 11:09 pm (UTC)

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I agree with you. It's $100 you could have used yourself that you chose not to. Your friend is just being absurd.
[User Picture]From: kinkakinka
2012-11-29 11:14 pm (UTC)

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No, my parents got me a huge stereo when I was a kid with their points and I was happy.
[User Picture]From: bbbbaked
2012-11-29 11:15 pm (UTC)

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ummmm gift giving isn't about the amount of money you spend
[User Picture]From: running_jumping
2012-11-29 11:17 pm (UTC)

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Wtf? That's an awesome idea. I wish I had reward points, I could do half my xmas shopping and still have enough to pay my rent.
[User Picture]From: fancy_sheets
2012-11-29 11:21 pm (UTC)

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Give them a $1 bill instead
[User Picture]From: kaelstra
2012-11-29 11:25 pm (UTC)

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Seriously, I'd do this for the friend whining about how you're "cheap". Fucking complain about getting gifts, then here, have a fucking pre-printed Hallmark card with a $1 bill in it, asshole.
[User Picture]From: jeesh
2012-11-29 11:23 pm (UTC)

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Just don't tell anyone. They won't know the difference.
From: baaangarang
2012-11-29 11:28 pm (UTC)

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If a friend of mine did that, I wouldn't get them anything and then if they said something I'd be like, "Well I couldn't afford to get you something out of pocket and since you seemed so offended by the thought of me using my reward points, I figured not getting you something was the best option."
[User Picture]From: nightfall18
2012-11-29 11:44 pm (UTC)

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No.

You earned those reward points. What the hell is your friend talking about? It's money that you could spend on yourself, that you're spending on others. Don't fret over idiotic statements by supposed friends.

[User Picture]From: tbone
2012-11-29 11:50 pm (UTC)

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It's extremely sad that we've reached a point that not only are gifts expected, but it's also apparently mandatory to pay cash for them. What ever happened to giving something freely because you like someone, not because you feel like you have to?
[User Picture]From: the_pyre
2012-11-29 11:52 pm (UTC)

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As long as you're actually putting thought into the gift I don't see why it's a problem. I mean, if someone found something I would LOVE I wouldn't be offended if they picked it up off the side of the road.
[User Picture]From: sister_anne
2012-11-30 12:26 am (UTC)

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I would cross that friend off my holiday gift list.
[User Picture]From: fleckerbug
2012-11-30 12:50 am (UTC)

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It's the thought that counts and the person you gift it to won't ever know. I don't think this 'friend' would be getting a gift frm me. :P
[User Picture]From: due27south
2012-11-30 01:25 am (UTC)

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No - how would they even know the "source"?
[User Picture]From: spicytoys
2012-11-30 03:24 am (UTC)

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I wouldn't care. It's the thought that counts, not the amount of money you spent on it. Besides, who would know if you bought it with points?
[User Picture]From: nya47
2012-11-30 04:48 am (UTC)

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I can see the friends point if you're buying things that no one wants just because you have the points (my dad has given me the most random shit that he wins at hockey raffles for christmas, like toasters when I was a teenager and still living with my mom... it's like, really, don't bother). But the general idea of using reward points instead of cash? Not cheap at all!
[User Picture]From: geiselle
2012-11-30 05:18 am (UTC)

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But that's $100 I could have spent on myself.

Agreed. It's still your money, basically. I'd actually think it was really cool if I found out someone used their reward points to buy me a gift; it's a smart thing to do, and it would mean they hadn't put themselves out to buy me something. And just knowing that they looked at the amount of points they had and thought "Hey, I'll use them to buy people gifts!" -- that is so sweet and generous. I don't know what your friend's deal is.
[User Picture]From: desert_sailor
2012-11-30 05:34 am (UTC)

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I think they need to shut up and be damn grateful you're getting them anything at all, honestly. Geez.
[User Picture]From: anthylorrel
2012-11-30 07:06 am (UTC)

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Um... how would they even know? It's none of their business. they should be glad to be getting something at all.
[User Picture]From: xenosphobatic
2012-11-30 03:41 pm (UTC)

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Your friend is retarded. If you found a $10 bill on the ground and bought a gift with that, would that make you cheap too? Giving is giving, regardless of how you acquired the currency.
[User Picture]From: metalheavy
2012-11-30 07:02 pm (UTC)

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Uh, no, and anyone who would be offended is clearly an ungrateful douche.