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[Nov. 21st, 2012|12:45 am]
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When spending a significant amount of time at another person's residence (SO, friend, etc.), when do you consider yourself more than just a guest?  When should you start helping out around the house?

If you live with another person/people, what are your biggest annoyances with their habits?

How often do you change your look?

How many pillows do you sleep with?  Do you have anything else on your bed?

[User Picture]From: lightofdaye
2012-11-21 10:39 am (UTC)


Live with the couple I lodge with. Since its their house. I can't complain but i do notice that they seem to throw away quite a bit of food. Also the insist on opening the bathroom window after a shower. In the middle of winter. Sure it gets rid of steam, it also cools the place down.

i barely ever change my look. Though i did go from goatee back to clean shaven in spring.

Two pillows. Nothing else on my bed aside from the sheets/duvet. Not sure if you meant them or not.
[User Picture]From: aislincalum
2012-11-21 11:54 am (UTC)


Yeah, anything other than sheets. I currently have a cat warming my pillows. LOL
[User Picture]From: paige_nevaeh
2012-11-21 10:40 am (UTC)


My SO spends most of his time at my flat, I think we were together a month before he started doing the washing up/cooking.
One of my flatmates has big "lads' night out"s, a load of loud, teenage boys in my flat? No thanks.
Not often, I dyed my hair last week, that was the first time in a year.
2, and no.
[User Picture]From: jaelle_n_gilla
2012-11-21 11:41 am (UTC)


The only time I ever stayed for longer was with significant others and I think I started the first or second weekend to help with the dishes and all that. I'd probably ask to do that with a friend I only stayed with once as well. Common courtesy.

The only thing that annoys me is that he keeps buying pesto even though we have tons in the pantry. Not a big annoyance I guess :)

Not very often.

I have two pillows, a soft one I prop up to sit and read, and an ergonomic one for sleeping. The soft one gets thrown to the end of the bed when I go to sleep.
[User Picture]From: futurenurselady
2012-11-21 02:22 pm (UTC)


I was raised that when you are a guest you offer to help regardless of how long you have been a guest. For example, offering to help carry things out to the grill at a BBQ.

I live with my husband, and we have pretty compatible habits. The only thing that ever gets annoying (and that's rarely) is that he sometimes loses track of time when we have to be somewhere.

I tried a new haircut about 2 years ago, hated it, and went back to the look I've had for the past 8 years before that.

Pillow for my head, sheets, comforter. When I had shoulder surgery, I had to sleep with a wedge pillow under the regular pillow. Sometimes I use that for reading in bed, but don't sleep like that.
[User Picture]From: koalatycontrol
2012-11-21 03:22 pm (UTC)


If I don't knock when I come in, or if I'm ever there when that person isn't, or if I have belongings there all the time. You should help pretty much as soon as you're no longer a guest. Or anytime you're asked for help.

He doesn't wash dishes very often, and when he does, he washes exactly what I need to cook dinner. Also, he shaves over a towel (which is great!), but then he wads the towel up and leaves it on the floor in the bathroom. All in all, he's not very annoying. Besides the whole not loving me thing.

I tend to chop all my hair off when I'm unhappy.

ALL the pillows and blankets.
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2012-11-21 03:30 pm (UTC)


No, i always consider myself a guest when im not in my house/home , or maybe at my moms, which i still consider her my mom and i can be a lazy slob and she can yell at me lol

I would be helping out around the house on day 1. I mean not maybe vacuuming (maybe id offer a week in or so) but id be offering to wash my sheets, wash my towels, id clean up after myself all the time, etc.


We have about 7 right now, we keep buying more because my SO doesnt like any of them then he still doesnt like them, then we buy more, etc...
[User Picture]From: emily_thegreat
2012-11-21 03:35 pm (UTC)


I always offer to help out, it's polite. Particularly with the dishes. It's such a small thing but I know I really appreciate it when people offer to help with the dishes at my place, so I try to do it for others.

MY ROOMMATE NEVER SCOOPS THE CAT BOX AND IT MAKES ME SO ANGRY. She didn't scoop it at ALL while I was gone for four days. A stinky, dirty cat box with poo on the floor was exactly what I wanted to come home to after a nine hour drive.

Never. I'm boring.

I have two regular pillows and one ~decorative~ which is just a fleece Batman pillow I made years ago and put a the matching sham from my duvet set on. Other than duvet/blanket/sheets there's nothing else on my bed. Except, usually, two lazy cats.

[User Picture]From: tamaracat
2012-11-21 05:38 pm (UTC)


I stayed with my friends for 6 weeks this summer. She had a housekeeper who did the big work twice while I was there, but I cooked dinner for her and her fiance once a week, helped with backyard BBQs, cleaned up after myself, and before i left I cleaned my room and washed all my sheets and towels.

I live my husband. I would say this time of year, my biggest annoyance is him watching football three nights a week and monopolizing the TV.

Very rarely, and then it's only small changes like a hair cut or a new make up product.

Three pillows. Sheets, duvet, my husband's pillow, my husband.
[User Picture]From: madeofsequins
2012-11-21 07:36 pm (UTC)


I spend every other weekend (Friday night-Monday or Tuesday morning) at my boyfriend's; I think I started helping with dishes, etc. the second time I was there. He does the same at my place (the other weekends).

I live with one roommate, and we really don't have any problems (that I'm aware of, anyway).

Drastically? Haven't for years. But I'll change in in subtle ways, like slight hair color or cut change, different clothing styles, etc.

I sleep on two pillows, have a 3rd on the bed for when the boy is here. And a whole mess of sheets and blankets (3 top sheets and two blankets, kind of all over the place). Sometimes my kitten is on my bed, too, but lately he hasn't wanted to sleep with me :(
[User Picture]From: ameliorate
2012-11-21 09:54 pm (UTC)


Wow, I find this such an odd question, I've always helped immediately since I was a kid. In fact it was pretty much looked on with complete disgust to let someone cook/clean up after you that I'd die of embarrassment. I've done everything from the dishes, dinner, to cleaning the backyard and garage, its just polite and honestly its usually so well received that it makes it completely worth it. Of course with close friends I expect the favor to be returned.