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My friend has been dating her boyfriend for three years and they live together. Her family lives in town and his lives in a different state. For holidays, he flies to be with his family and she stays in town.

Do you think this is perfectly fine, or a little weird? If you were in this situation, would you do the same?
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[User Picture]From: firefox1490
2012-11-19 04:48 am (UTC)

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IDK I don't think its odd. This way they don't have to pick who's family they go see they just see their own family.
[User Picture]From: kaelstra
2012-11-19 04:48 am (UTC)

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If it works for them, then it's perfectly fine.

There have been a few times my SO has gone to his parents house for the holidays (they live in another state) just because I couldn't get out of work for a week straight during the holidays to go visit, and he misses them.
[User Picture]From: crucified
2012-11-19 04:49 am (UTC)

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That seems perfectly fine to me.
[User Picture]From: holidaylights
2012-11-19 04:49 am (UTC)

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Doesn't seem weird to me.
[User Picture]From: phenomenal
2012-11-19 04:50 am (UTC)

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Essentially that's what my boyfriend and I do, though we both live in the same state, we just travel to different parts of the state for the holidays. We've also been together nearly three years. I don't think it's weird - I want to be with my family on Christmas.
[User Picture]From: lisasimpsonfan
2012-11-19 04:53 am (UTC)

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If they are happy with it then it's perfectly fine for them.
[User Picture]From: nightmer
2012-11-19 04:54 am (UTC)

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LOL, if I could find a way to do this and not offend everyone involved, I definitely would. If it works for them, great.
[User Picture]From: stripedbeauty
2012-11-19 04:55 am (UTC)

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Perfectly okay. My husband and I did that for the first couple years of our relationship. Now, we see both sides of the families together for both holidays. But, we're lucky enough that we have most of our families within a couple hours of each other.
[User Picture]From: sblmnldrknss
2012-11-19 04:58 am (UTC)

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It's not what I would do. But it they're happy with it it's fine.
[User Picture]From: saikaro_x
2012-11-19 05:00 am (UTC)

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I think it's fine. Whatever works for them. I would want to see my family on the holidays, and if I had to choose between spending the holidays with my family or my boyfriend's, I would pick my family. And if my boyfriend felt the same way, I would respect that and let him go off and see his family instead of spending time with mine.
[User Picture]From: tbone
2012-11-19 05:00 am (UTC)

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Well, it's fine if it's fine with them. Maybe she doesn't get along with his family, or they can't justify the expense. Maybe he has family obligations that he just can't get out of. Maybe it just works for them. I can think of plenty of reasons why they do this and it's not weird.
[User Picture]From: bigeyedphish
2012-11-19 05:11 am (UTC)

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My sister has been with her boyfriend for 7 or 8 years and does the same thing. They never go to each others houses for holidays. I would probably do the same thing. I think it's fine.
[User Picture]From: jeesh
2012-11-19 05:13 am (UTC)

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My fiance and I both live far away from our families, and neither one of us wants to be without them for the holidays, so we split up. We each spend the holiday with our own family. My grandma isn't doing so well, so until she's pass on, I'm not willing to NOT spend the holidays with my family. And he understands.
Though I think this year he won't be going home for Christmas. He has a bunch of friends who aren't spending it with their families (LA is full of "strays" like that, lol), so they'll all be together.
I wish I could spend the holidays with his family, cuz they're fun, and it snows where they live (as a Californian this amazes me). But nope, it's too important to be with my fam.

So I don't think it's weird at all.
[User Picture]From: noodledays
2012-11-19 07:30 pm (UTC)

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where is your fiance's family?
[User Picture]From: mzkitteh
2012-11-19 05:23 am (UTC)

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I don't feel like it's any of my business to decide whether I think it's weird or not. It could just be how they like to do things. My ex and I didn't always spend all holidays together. He'd go w/ his family and I'd go home to see mine.
[User Picture]From: handsunderhips
2012-11-19 05:28 am (UTC)

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I think that's a great idea. I love when people can have independence in a relationship and actually think it's quite healthy. I side eye people who can not be away from each other even in a situation where it would be more convenient, just for a few days.
[User Picture]From: running_jumping
2012-11-19 05:41 am (UTC)

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Does it bother one of them?
[User Picture]From: bdellovibrio
2012-11-19 05:53 am (UTC)

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Perfectly normal to me. Some people aren't as into the holidays/being with "loved ones" isn't what it's all about (ie they live together and spend the rest of the year together so what's the big deal about a couple days in December), or maybe the gf really has no desire to spend time with the bf's family.
For me it's more about finally having a freaking day off work than being with any particular person (not that I'll be getting anything more than the actual 25th off lol)
[User Picture]From: vivid_corners
2012-11-19 06:00 am (UTC)

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Perfectly fine.

It's not how I would do things, one reason being I don't have any family so I would either want us to do our own thing together or I'd spend the holidays him and his family. Or we could switch off. Me and my best friend live together, and he usually spends Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve with his family, and then we spend Christmas Day together.
[User Picture]From: erroroperator
2012-11-19 06:00 am (UTC)

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I don't think it's weird. They each want to spend time with their families over the holidays. That's what I'd do in my situation. My SO and I have worked it out so he'll celebrate Christmas on the 23rd with my family, I'll celebrate on the 24th with his and we spend the 25th with our own families.
[User Picture]From: wristtattoos
2012-11-19 06:13 am (UTC)

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Not weird to me.
[User Picture]From: hatefatwhores
2012-11-19 06:23 am (UTC)

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I think it's more than perfectly fine. I don't understand why it would be considered weird. What difference does a bf make when you want to see your family for the holidays?
[User Picture]From: isis_newton
2012-11-19 06:27 am (UTC)

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It's perfectly fine. Yes I would do that if I wanted to.
[User Picture]From: spiffle
2012-11-19 06:32 am (UTC)

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Doesn't seem weird at all. I've been with my partner for the same length of time and we have had one Christmas together, after he already spent most of the day with his family. I think if children were involved it would be different.
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[User Picture]From: actpassive
2012-11-19 06:34 am (UTC)

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I don't think that's weird.
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