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[jezemel]
Have you ever been mugged? How long did it take you to calm down? How long did it take you to stop being jumpy and afraid? Do you think people who only have minor physical injuries and are okay should still get some therapy to process what happened or is that too dramatic?
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[User Picture]From: obfuscate
2012-11-12 10:04 pm (UTC)

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I imagine being mugged could be incredibly traumatizing, regardless of physical injury.

I've never been mugged, fortunately. If this happened to you, I'm so sorry. :(
[User Picture]From: alpacacock
2012-11-12 10:04 pm (UTC)

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This, all around.
[User Picture]From: emptysilentlife
2012-11-12 10:07 pm (UTC)

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I agree with all of this too.
[User Picture]From: zombiefruit
2012-11-12 10:19 pm (UTC)

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All of this.
[User Picture]From: x3_molly
2012-11-12 10:23 pm (UTC)

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I agree.

Also, I think that getting therapy whenever you need it, for whatever reason, is always okay.
[User Picture]From: noodledays
2012-11-12 10:29 pm (UTC)

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I second what obfuscate said and this.

are you okay physically? <3
[User Picture]From: jezemel
2012-11-12 11:36 pm (UTC)

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Yes, he hurt my arm pretty badly, but I'm very lucky he didn't do more. Now I'm just trying to figure out how much this has impacted me mentally.
[User Picture]From: noodledays
2012-11-12 11:39 pm (UTC)

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please try not to feel bad about doing what you need to to take care of you through this.
[User Picture]From: ccat50
2012-11-12 10:42 pm (UTC)

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This.
[User Picture]From: ellelelle
2012-11-12 10:12 pm (UTC)

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No, thank god. I did get followed, harassed and threatened by this guy a few weeks ago. I'm pretty sure there was something sinister afoot with him. He kept calling me a whore and saying lewd things. I felt much better after I rang the guards but I was jumpy for a few days after. It's still obviously on my mind for me to talk about it here.

I think people should get whatever support they need, I imagine it's a horrible experience and I'm sorry you went through it :(

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[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2012-11-12 10:18 pm (UTC)

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No, but i remember one day i was at work at the hospital and went home at 3. My coworker (receptionist / data entry) came later and left at 5. That evening she was walking to her car in our car lot and someone stabbed her in the knee with a screwdriver and ran away. Not exactly a mugging (she thought she "caught" him trying to break in to a car) but its the closest ive gotten.
[User Picture]From: jezemel
2012-11-12 11:37 pm (UTC)

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That is far far worse :(
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2012-11-13 12:08 am (UTC)

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Maybe :( She took it really well. I guess since it was kind of done in reaction/self defence she didnt really feel like there was much of a threat there, like she wasnt targeted or anything. I feel like if someone specifically mugged me id be so paranoid :(
[User Picture]From: musicboxwaltz
2012-11-13 01:57 am (UTC)

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OUCH FUCK!
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2012-11-13 03:05 am (UTC)

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She took it extraordinarily well!
[User Picture]From: vodkabeforenoon
2012-11-12 10:18 pm (UTC)

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I don't think it has to be physical for the experience to be traumatic. That lost of control can be paralyzing, I think therapy could be helpful.

I have never been mugged.
[User Picture]From: dravvie
2012-11-12 10:24 pm (UTC)

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I had a guy come up push me and take all the cash out of my wallet I had just pulled out of my purse while walking to the train station in a town I had just moved to. I was pretty pissed, but it was like 5 bucks and he left my credit cards so whatever.
[User Picture]From: actpassive
2012-11-12 11:05 pm (UTC)

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Somebody tried to mug me one time. I was shaken but I was alone in a foreign country so I just sort of had to deal with it. I think it made me more aware and a bit paranoid which I think is okay in certain circumstances (so I am still jumpy and afraid sometimes). I don't think I should have gotten therapy for it, that seems pretty dramatic.
[User Picture]From: awfulbliss
2012-11-12 11:29 pm (UTC)

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I was mugged at gunpoint while alone and another time I was with two friends walking down the street and someone ran up behind us and by the time one of us had turned around, my friend had been decked and the guy ran off with my other friend's purse. Broke my friend's nose, blood gushing out of his nose, etc. It was pretty terrifying at the time but it's not something I needed therapy for or anything, thankfully. Even before that happened, I'm someone who constantly is looking around when I'm alone somewhere.
[User Picture]From: jezemel
2012-11-12 11:38 pm (UTC)

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I guess I am that someone now, too.
[User Picture]From: kill_inhibition
2012-11-13 01:05 am (UTC)

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My husband was mugged at gunpoint too. It infuriates me that someone thinks another persons life is worth whatever money they might be carrying on them. I just can't imagine how terrifying that must have been.
[User Picture]From: kill_inhibition
2012-11-13 01:03 am (UTC)

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While walking with my ex. Four guys jumped us for $20 we didn't have. My ex needed stitches in his face and had a concussion after.
Until the next morning. I stayed up and watched him sleep once we got home from the hospital because I was scared he was going to die.

I never really felt jumpy or afraid after, just more aware of my surroundings.

If they feel they need it.
[User Picture]From: madscience
2012-11-13 01:26 am (UTC)

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The one time I came close to being mugged was so long ago that I don't remember how I felt afterward. My brother and I were about 6 and 9, and we got jumped by some older kids who demanded our baseball gloves and stuff. My brother ground a fistful of sand into one of the kids' eyes, and we got away.

When I get into a potentially violent situation, I'm usually jumpy for the rest of the day and have trouble going to sleep that night Like the time I made it obvious that I was photographing illegal dumpers in my neighborhood, or when two guys I'm pretty sure were would-be burglars knocked on my door asking for someone who doesn't live here, or the time I attacked a cabbie who was deliberately terrorizing bicyclists. I keep going over how things would have played out if they hadn't backed down.
[User Picture]From: hatefatwhores
2012-11-13 04:07 am (UTC)

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Yes. It happened in 2008 and although I feel "calm" doing every day things, I HATE walking alone at night and I always carry my purse tucked under my arm with my other hand clutching it. I also walk as fast as humanly possible all the while turning my head all over the place to see who's following me. I used to like talking to people while waiting for the bus or something, but now I'm so suspicious of everyone and hold my bag tighter and take a step further away from people if I'm not alone at the stop. I think I'll always be afraid of strangers now.

I think anyone who thinks they need therapy should get it regardless of what anyone else thinks. It's nobody else's business.
[User Picture]From: anarchy_agent
2012-11-13 04:19 am (UTC)

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I was robbed at gunpoint a little over a year ago, outside of my apartment building. Even though I moved to a different and much safer part of town a few days later (not because of the mugging, but coincidentally), I still felt hyperaware and jumpy going from my car to my condo. It took a few months to feel comfortable driving alone at night. Even now if I'm walking from school to my car late at night I call the walking escort service. I feel less afraid now, but I think my threshold is permanently lowered for the "something's not right" feeling (like if I see people I don't recognize in my building, etc).

I had no physical injuries and I went to see a counselor the day after it happened. You should absolutely get some therapy if you are considering it. I found it especially helpful because I didn't have anyone in my personal life that I felt 100% comfortable talking to, because none of them had been mugged and couldn't relate. I also took a self-defense class. There is nothing dramatic about doing what you need to do to process what happened; it's a shitty, terrible thing and I'm sorry you had to go through it.
[User Picture]From: lovefast
2012-11-13 02:50 pm (UTC)

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I was mugged when I was 13 with a friend.. these three girls (much bigger than us) came out of nowhere IN BROAD DAY LIGHT, ON A MAIN STREET, IN FRONT OFA STORE and surrounded us and were demanding our money. I had 1$ in my hand (literally) and 10$ in my pocket but only gave 1$. The other girl wanted my friend's phone and she said no, so the girl started getting angry and went back to her car. We ran inside,someone had called the police, and turns out they had a gun/knife in their car and the girl had been previously charged with assault and battery ect. We were lucky but still, I'm paranoid. if someone looks at me weird, I make sure to hide my stuff and pay attention. I don't think that'll change until I move since I've had a few other almost muggings. We also had to go to court and sat near the offenders so that was pretty traumatic.