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[kelj99]
What kinds of things are acceptable excuses to miss an event that you said you were going to attend less than 2 hours before event is set to begin?

I had a playdate/brunch at my house yesterday and bought enough food for everyone only to have almost half the "yes" responders back out morning of.  Where kids are involved, I realize things happen but I took a few excuses a bit poorly, especially since they all know I am moving in less than 2 weeks and I'll probably never get to see most of them again.

#1 was "I've been up with E since 6:30am.  I'm too tired now so I won't make it" 

#2 was "O had a nightmare last night and had trouble falling back asleep.  We're staying home today"

Is it only me who feels like if you stayed home every time your child cost you a little sleep that you'd never do anything?  My son has been up at 5:30 am for the last week (adjusted poorly to the time change) and while I'm kinda bummed about it, it hasn't made me miss anything I would normally do.

TL:DR - I'm pouting about people who canceled on me last minute.  Validate me?

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From: blue_sky_day
2012-11-10 04:08 pm (UTC)

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Depends on the event.
[User Picture]From: grimalkinrn
2012-11-10 04:09 pm (UTC)

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It was rude of them to cancel for the event so late.

I send Christmas cards at the beginning of December.
[User Picture]From: smartaleckstef
2012-11-10 04:11 pm (UTC)

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I hate people who bail super last minute. I think it's a smart phone phenomenon. Now people can get out of things by texting. If you had to pick up the phone and call it'd be a different story. I really hate that.
[User Picture]From: striga
2012-11-10 04:21 pm (UTC)

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I agree, those are not excuses I would have made. On the other hand, maybe their kids turn into rampaging, screaming, tantrum-throwing monsters when they don't have enough sleep. Maybe they were trying to protect you from the destroyers-of-worlds that their innocent children had become overnight. Maybe your kid is just more level-headed and all-around awesome than theirs.
[User Picture]From: kelj99
2012-11-10 04:27 pm (UTC)

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While I'd really love to believe my kid is more level-headed and all-around awesome, I can assure you that is not the case, haha.

I can totally get the not wanting to have a trantruming child at someone's place and the child with the nightmare could very well have stayed home for that reason. (Though I'm totally cool with a less than stellar child, we're all in the same boat some days).

The one that was like "oh *I* am le tired" is a little more WTF>

I'll get over it, lol. :)
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2012-11-10 04:25 pm (UTC)

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Things that are the truth.

Lots of those things (maybe not the child who did not sleep) sound like truths to me, which is good, because theyre not giving you some BS response to try to "look better" about getting out of it. Id be sad/upset, but at the end of the day feel better theyre being honest then an hour before being like "I just burned my face with my curling iron and have to go to the ER! Sorry!!"

Many people simply dont want to put in the effort level it may require, and thats ok. I have to force myself to do many things, im sure its harder when its forcing yourself and a kid, although when kids come in to play i would have really pushed myself to go.
[User Picture]From: kelj99
2012-11-10 04:32 pm (UTC)

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Yes. I appreciate honesty for sure.

I got lots and lots of "kid is sick" excuses as well, which made my eyes roll just a little, depending on the person (with history of missing events and making up excuses).

Overall, not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. I'd just rather somebody make it a priority to go to things they said they would, particularly when another person (or people) are put out over it.
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2012-11-10 08:31 pm (UTC)

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Yeah, i think 'kid is fussy' and 'kid is sick' can be kind of BS excuses but youre damned if you point them out on it, hey? hahah. Its just once someone is putting in that much effort to host something, even if the kid is sick...leave the kid at home ,go, thank the host, appreciate the host. If kid is tired, bring kid for 30 min, hell, 10 min if he cracks out in a temper tantrum, who cares, just make the effort.
[User Picture]From: pirahan
2012-11-10 04:28 pm (UTC)

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630 is a reasonable time to wake up. That person is ridiculous.

But seriously, lack of sleep is hardly an excuse to go to a PLAY date. It's not like that shit is at 11pm.

Validated!
[User Picture]From: phenomenal
2012-11-10 04:28 pm (UTC)

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I'd be annoyed that people canceled, but at the same time I think I understand it. It's the weekend and they may have been hoping to get some rest and because they couldn't, they still want it.
[User Picture]From: kelj99
2012-11-10 04:32 pm (UTC)

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The playdate was yesterday morning.

Plus, I don't know any parent who gets to catch up on their sleep in the morning after missing it. The kid is still up, what are they supposed to do with them while they rest?

Edited at 2012-11-10 04:36 pm (UTC)
[User Picture]From: phenomenal
2012-11-10 04:51 pm (UTC)

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I don't mean actually sleeping, but I do mean lazing around in your pajamas or something and not having to go somewhere and communicate with people.
But actually, the fact it was Friday changes my opinion I think.
[User Picture]From: thirdsouza
2012-11-10 04:42 pm (UTC)

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Those two excuses would annoy me, I know I would rather take my son to a play date on little sleep than stay home with him and have to entertain him. The sick excuse I understand as I appreciate them not wanting to get my child sick.
[User Picture]From: failstoexist
2012-11-10 05:47 pm (UTC)

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Vomiting, if your car breaks completely...if kids were older and they had behavior that warranted being kept home because they were being punished.

But it would take a lot for me to miss seeing someone who was moving in 2 weeks. I feel like people don't honor their commitments and it makes me mad.