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Under what circumstances would you unfriend someone on Facebook? Do you consider unfriending someone to be petty?
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[User Picture]From: vinolent
2012-11-09 05:28 am (UTC)

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Only if I never ever talk to them and have no urge to creep on them
[User Picture]From: plugmebaby
2012-11-09 05:33 am (UTC)

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yeah i think its petty, esp if its because of a fight or something. i dont mind people unfriending me if theyre not interested in my life / dont really know me personally. i do that. if i had a fight with someone and dont want to see their updates, ill just block them from my minifeed.
[User Picture]From: e_y_d
2012-11-09 05:35 am (UTC)

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a while back an acquaintance posted a really aggressive, long, ranting status update to his "fake facebook acquaintances" saying that if they didn't prove themselves -- prove that they care about his facebook friendship, or something -- by donating at least $1 from their "ironic tshirt fund" to a film project he was working on by x date, he would unfriend them. I went to his donation page and donated $1, then unfriended him. I was very annoyed and it was extremely petty.

anyway. 1) circumstances like the one above, or if I don't remember who they are and seeing them on my page is annoying, or I just don't like them, etc. 2) sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't.
[User Picture]From: kaelstra
2012-11-09 05:42 am (UTC)

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Lol, I wouldn't have even given him a fucking dollar.
[User Picture]From: e_y_d
2012-11-09 06:00 am (UTC)

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it was the most spiteful dollar I've ever spent
[User Picture]From: xenosphobatic
2012-11-09 01:06 pm (UTC)

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Should've thrown the $0.02.
[User Picture]From: kaelstra
2012-11-09 05:42 am (UTC)

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I don't generally unfriend people to be petty; if they're annoying me, I just unsub their feeds so I don't have to see their shit anymore. I don't really engage a lot on Facebook, so this isn't typically a huge problem for me.

I can't say I think it's petty without knowing more specific circumstances. Sometimes unfriending people is petty, sometimes it's exactly the right thing to do.
[User Picture]From: spiffle
2012-11-09 05:47 am (UTC)

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If their updates annoy me and they aren't worthwhile simply 'ignoring' them.
[User Picture]From: freakshownia
2012-11-09 05:52 am (UTC)

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I just block, not unfriend people I don't like anymore. That way I can still tell who has them as a mutual friend =P
[User Picture]From: greeneyedsadie
2012-11-09 05:56 am (UTC)

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I am currently debating with myself whether to unfriend someone on facebook who threatens suicide for attention and then disappears and won't answer people's phone calls and then comes back a day later and everything is grand. I have hidden her for now.
[User Picture]From: mprfctn
2012-11-09 05:56 am (UTC)

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the only person i have ever deleted from facebook was a guy i was seeing for a VERY short amount of time who got incredibly clingy/posessive of me. to the point of me not wanting him to know where i lived, where i worked, or where i was "near" (as facebook shows that in my status' sometimes) i don't mind having any of that on facebook because it is only visible to friends, but i wanted him nowhere near that.
From: saloonperfume
2012-11-09 06:25 am (UTC)

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If I just had no interest in them/their lives anymore. I typically do a mass unfriending like once a year, it's nothing personal. Oh, and of course if they got super weird or something like this one guy who talked to me one time over IM and then was talking about flying across the country to see me...that was creepy.

I don't really see the point in unfriending people because of what they post or whatever. If I don't like what they're doing I'll just hide from my feed; it's not that important.

Edited at 2012-11-09 06:26 am (UTC)
[User Picture]From: feral
2012-11-09 06:48 am (UTC)

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When I find myself rolling my eyes and scrolling past their shit everyday

Or when we haven't spoken in forever and I have no desire to start
[User Picture]From: epitones
2012-11-09 06:50 am (UTC)

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I've defriended people that I fell out with/no longer want to hear from/don't like, simply because their posts annoyed me and I didn't want to see their bullshit. There's a reason I didn't see them in real life so why would I want to see them online?

I've been defriended before by means of ending a friendship, which I think is petty and sad. If my friends have a problem with me then why don't they just talk to me about it so we can resolve it rather than just hitting the delete button?</p>

If I ever have a child and post pictures of them on there I'll probably delete a lot of people, because I don't want people that I no longer hear from (even though it's interesting to see what they're up to) having access to pictures of my kid.

[User Picture]From: hatefatwhores
2012-11-09 06:53 am (UTC)

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I haven't had fb for like 2 years, but I used to unfriend people pretty often. If they seemed like their lives were full of drama they caused, I didn't care enough to look at their statuses so I'd delete them. I also deleted people who would post the same things all the time about how miserable they were just to get attention. I also deleted people who I couldn't even remember who they were or if I went to high school with them, but had never spoken to them. It got to the point where I was deleting at least one person per week, usually more, so I realized fb just wasn't for me and just deleted the whole thing, haha. I don't think deleting people is petty because if you don't want to be their fb friend anymore that's your prerogative and it shouldn't really require an explanation.
[User Picture]From: sister_anne
2012-11-09 07:16 am (UTC)

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I unfriend people if they post, "I'm cleaning up my friends list! If you want to stay, tell me why I should keep you!"

I unfriend racist, homophobes, misogynists, sizeists, ableists, ageists, etc. (unless I feel that I can probably edumacate them and make them see that they're in the wrong...people who know they're wrong and are just acting like bigots to be ~*~edgy~*~ are out the door).

I unfriend people who personally insult me, or who talk shit about people I love.
[User Picture]From: un_attra
2012-11-09 07:46 am (UTC)

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I don't really find unfriending petty at all. Given that there is a good reason.
A while ago I unfriended a girl I knew really well. All her posts were instantly mocking anyone who was married under her age and was pregnant. Constantl insults thrown our way and some of them really crossed the line (started calling us all sluts and filled with STD's and all that shit)...in short, she was just bitter because her long-term boyfriend broke up with her and she was jealous of everyone starting to have families.
But other then that, if they are really whiny and always doing the "poor me" status updates, I usually delete them because it just is constant back-to-back posts...and I can't handle it.
[User Picture]From: lutine
2012-11-09 09:26 am (UTC)

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I unfriend people pretty regularly. Every six months or so I do a friends cull and delete people that I never talk to. Sometimes they try to add me back months later and it's awkward, but seriously, I have no use for people that never talk to me or interact with me.

I also have unfriended a small handful of people who constantly post views that I disagree with. Having a different opinion is fine, but when I have to read shit that makes my blood boil every single day, I refuse to deal with that. I unfriended one person who always talked shit about welfare moms, lazy people on unemployment, basically shouting BOOOOOOOTSRAAAAPPS! all the time. Another person posted "If you don't think that ObamaCare is the worst thing ever to happen to America, go ahead and unfriend me." So I did.
[User Picture]From: paisley80
2012-11-09 12:59 pm (UTC)

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I love when they make it easy like that. I unfriended a guy who said "I disagree with gay marriage, and if you have a problem with that, take me off your friends list." Done!
[User Picture]From: x_quotethis_x
2012-11-09 09:46 am (UTC)

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I unfriended a girl I knew recently because she suddenly made endless posts that came up on my feed about how abortion is unhealthy for the mother, a sin, and how women who get abortions should be considered murderers. Have whatever stance you want on abortion, but seriously, how dare she proclaim to hundreds of people that if they've had an abortion, they're a murderer. She basically admitted she thinks women who have abortions are scum, so I decided she was.

I don't really know or care if unfriending is petty. If you don't want to see someone's bullshit, unfriending seems a good way to go.
[User Picture]From: zombiefruit
2012-11-09 10:10 am (UTC)

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Someone on my LJ commented (on, I think, a link to an article about trans* rights or something - on MY wall) with a bunch of shit about how people are whatever gender their biological sex is at birth and that can never be changed and rah rah rah.

He properly went off on one. I just deleted and blocked him. Wtf.
[User Picture]From: alexi_lupin
2012-11-09 10:38 am (UTC)

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I unfriend people I never communicate with. Like, it's cool that we went to school together, whatever, but we haven't interacted in 2 years. I'm cutting you loose. I don't think it's petty.
[User Picture]From: csandiegooo
2012-11-09 11:30 am (UTC)

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I don't think it's petty--if you genuinely don't want someone as part of your life i.e. exes, obnoxious acquaintances, then what's the point? It's the internet, after all.
[User Picture]From: starrchilde
2012-11-09 12:23 pm (UTC)

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I defriend people who play games I no longer play, but continually send me requests after I've pointed out I don't play the game any longer. Especially if the only reason we were friends initially is because we play the same stupid games. Heh Also people who continually post stupid or inappropriate things - I don't want to see a FB feed full of half-naked people and huge images of marijuana leaves with explicit phrases across them.

I don't think it's petty to defriend people, it's your FB. You should have the content and the people you want exposure to, not just everyone because you feel obligated to keep them around.
[User Picture]From: xenosphobatic
2012-11-09 01:07 pm (UTC)

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I don't think I've ever really defriended anyone on facebook, but I have started ignoring feeds, especially of one guy I knew in High School who started posting pictures of his penis.
[User Picture]From: malidocious
2012-11-09 07:29 pm (UTC)

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WHOA. I didn't think you were allowed to post naked pics... that would be awkward lol!
[User Picture]From: xenosphobatic
2012-11-10 02:23 pm (UTC)

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Yeah, it was a little...interesting.
[User Picture]From: x_jessicah
2012-11-09 01:20 pm (UTC)

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I don't find it petty. So what? It's Facebook? I'm sharing personal information on there like photos and events, and if I don't want someone to see that, that's my decision and shouldn't be labeled as "petty".

I delete people off Facebook, when I notice that I don't care about their lives anymore. Sometimes I delete people because I know that if I ran into them I wouldn't talk to them. And sometimes I delete people because what they post bothers me in one way or another.
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2012-11-09 02:59 pm (UTC)

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If I realize that i dont care to ever look at their wall or profile for any reason whatsoever.
[User Picture]From: mr_sadhead
2012-11-09 03:15 pm (UTC)

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I did that recently. Somebody I know posted a long weird rant about a TV personality who lives in the area. He's a good guy for the most part, but she really went off on him. When she started posting pictures of him with swastikas and beards drawn on in Paint, I had to get off the bus.
[User Picture]From: thirdsouza
2012-11-09 03:40 pm (UTC)

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The only people who I've unfriended are my former father-in-law and a couple of my friends' exes that I was only friends with in the first place because they were dating my friends. It didn't help that most of these folks were complete hypocrites who consistently posted holier-than-thou messages when if you really got to know them they were complete jerks.

It depends on the reason, if you're unfriending them because they like turkey bacon better than pork bacon, then yes you are being petty, but there are plenty of legitimate reasons to unfriend people.
[User Picture]From: loulita
2012-11-09 04:36 pm (UTC)

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If we haven't spoken in forever, for whatever reason. If we're not interested enough in each other to call/text/meetup then why be Facebook friends?
People take unfriending on Facebook way too seriously.
[User Picture]From: xinsomnia
2012-11-09 05:45 pm (UTC)

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I've unfriended ex-boyfriends, and people that I just don't care about. I have about 150 friends on fbook and they are all people that I would talk to/hang out with in real life, which is not how people treat fbook (at least the ppl I know don't - they amass hundreds of friends just for the sake of the number). If I delete a person, it's really nothing personal. If I feel too bad about deleting someone, or think that deleting someone will cause all kinds of drama, I just block them from my newsfeed. Whatever.
[User Picture]From: borboleta
2012-11-09 06:55 pm (UTC)

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I used to have a bunch of people I didn't talk to anymore so I deleted them all. Also the people I knew only had me added to lurk my shit and vice versa.

People who post "poor me" statuses more than like once a week. Gone. People who talk shit about others on their fb, even if I don't know who they are talking about. Deleted. I typically always delete people I sleep with or date after we break it off. Except my ex of like 4 yrs. we're still friends. I don't think it's petty. I don't really notice when people delete me tho because I use twitter more than fb now.
[User Picture]From: loveandbees
2012-11-09 07:28 pm (UTC)

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Oh, I delete people quite often. I don't like keeping people on there who I am unlikely to see again, or ever communicate with - old school friends etc. I don't think it's petty, because I can't imagine the people I delete would care really.
[User Picture]From: fuzzieduckie
2012-11-09 09:35 pm (UTC)

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pretty much never... only if they insisted on posting inappropriate comments to my wall and such and wouldn't stop after i talked to them about it, or something. i prefer to have as large of a network as possible, partly because hey why not?, and partly because i'm about to go into sales and networking is key.
[User Picture]From: bikinifetish
2012-11-09 10:13 pm (UTC)

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If they block me from stuff...also if I never ever talk to them.