||[Nov. 8th, 2012|01:29 pm]
How does one cope with feelings of self-loathing and worthlessness?|
Remind oneself of their good traits. If that seems challenging it might be helpful to get in a habit to list the good things you do on a daily bases no matter how small.
Invade a country with inferior military capacity.
Therapy, listen to happy music, watch inspirational videos, remind yourself of all the awesome things about yourself, distracting yourself with friends, figuring out a specific thing you're unhappy with and fixing it.
Daily Affirmation, with Stuart Smalley.
one day at a time, i look around me and see i'm doing ok and glad for it! Edited at 2012-11-08 11:01 pm (UTC)
I lost 20 pounds, got into a good school program, got a new relationship, and basically became a completely different person. It worked.
In all seriousness, you need to make the changes you want in your life...unless you have everything you want and can't shake the feelings.
Remind yourself that those kind of feelings are irrational, that even though they feel real, they do not actually have any connection with reality.
Schadenfreude can also play a roll. Think of someone who's really pathetic, someone who you couldn't actually imagine being, and remind yourself that you're not them!
I'm also a big fan of writing therapy. Write a bunch! Vent on your blog...
what if you are that person?
Therapy, time, effort..generally i guess id say 'help'.
I can't say I am good at it. I got DBT therapy for two years. It did help some, but I still have a lot of self-loathing to deal with.
Like today two mistakes that I made came to light minutes apart and right in front of my supervisor. This is after the past spring of tons of small mistakes I made coming to light. I am self-loathing tonight. Even though it is a pointless job with inconsequential mistakes involved, it is my job and I seem to be the only one that makes mistakes there.
So, I empathize. I mean, we can't totally suck, can we?
I've never heard of DBT therapy before this comment. How did you find out about it? I've been told by my psychologist that I need to have therapy to mix with my drugs. I've been in and out for my whole life and have found it to largely be a crock. But according to wiki, your DBT stuff may actually be backed with science?!??!?!??! I'm intrigued.. could you tell me more?
And obv you don't totally suck, because you've given me hope ;-)
This is a good place to start: http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/
It is A LOT of work. You don't just go to therapy and talk. You get homework that you have to do. I had group therapy once a week and individual every other week.
It was first started in help people with Borderline Personality Disorder, but it has proven helpful for a whole spectrum of issues that deal with things like self-loathing, fear of being unloved, impulse control, negative self-talk, disordered eating, etc. It has even had positive results for people with PTSD. It doesn't teach you to get rid of negative feelings in all situations. It teaches you to cope with them. It is called Distress Tolerance. But also skills to reduce them, as well. It also teaches you interpersonal effectiveness skills to deal with conflict and to get what you want out of a conflict. To be able to tolerate other people's anger or disappointment or dislike of you.
You have to find someone who is specifically trained in DBT. I just happened to land with a therapist who came recommended, and that is what she does.
I should go back, because I have slipped right back into all of that.
Good luck! If you want to talk further about it, PM me.
I pretty much stuff my feelings until I don't feel much of anything anymore. I don't recommend it.
Find something and get obsessed with it. Fitness, writing, painting, running, career--anything. Just find something outside yourself that gives you a sense of accomplishment.
I clean like a mother fucker. Or I read a book. Something that totally distracts. I take a shower. Take a walk. Exercise. Literally tell those feelings to go "fuck themselves" and chose to be happy regardless of them. Sleep. Try to sleep a lot since it is the only place I can totally forget about "being me."
Depends, do you want my positive methods or self destructive ones?