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I am a U.S. veteran with PTSD. I get along fine with my neighbors, but every single year they take delight in seeing how much they can blow this neighborhood up on the 4th of July. My dogs and my fragile nerves suffer accordingly. This year we have had a drought and there is a fireworks ban because of how dry everything is and there is a real danger of fire. My question is this: If you were me and your neighbors were sneaking around lighting fireworks anyway, would you turn them in? Also, how would you deal with the 4th of July in general if you had PTSD? Going to another country for the 4th is not an option. Getting drunk and/or taking a lot of Xanax is how I've dealt with it in the past :/

dk/dc/not an American: Have you ever had your eyebrows threaded? I just had my entire face done and I can't believe how baby's butt-smooth my skin is.
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[User Picture]From: noachoc
2012-07-02 07:24 pm (UTC)

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I've had my eyebrows threaded. I get em done every couple of months because the threading lady is better at shaping my eyebrows than I am. The original threading lasts about three weeks but I can maintain it pretty well by plucking.

If there's real danger of fire, and if I were not very fond of my neighbors, I'd turn em in. If I really liked my neighbors, though, I probably wouldn't.
[User Picture]From: cathubodva
2012-07-02 07:25 pm (UTC)

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So I don't have PTSD and I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through. I am so sorry, and thank you for your service.

However, I have a fireworks phobia. I don't mind the lights, but I have a really hard time with the noise and sometimes it gives me panic attacks. I've dealt with this in the past by going to the movies during peak firework time, or doing some really thorough grocery shopping.

My most recent solution has been a really good pair of noise-canceling headphones, the kind that airport employees wear.
[User Picture]From: jessicann00
2012-07-02 07:28 pm (UTC)

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Do your neighbors know your issues? I would probably bust them if I were in your situation.

Never been threaded, but I've thought about it.
[User Picture]From: latechgrad26
2012-07-02 07:29 pm (UTC)

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I'd turn them in especially if there's a burn ban/fireworks ban in place. It's a safety issue.

Can you go to your local VFW on the 4th or treat yourself to dinner and a movie away from the noise?

I've had my eyebrows threaded. I loved it.
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2012-07-02 07:30 pm (UTC)

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Id call the non-emergency police line and anonymously notify them that the neighbours are lighting fireworks, yes.
[User Picture]From: punkymcmunky
2012-07-02 07:31 pm (UTC)

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Stay inside and listen to music with noise cancelling headphones. Or take your ipod/mp3 player outside with the headphones.

I would turn them in if there was a fire works ban because of dryness. That's just a matter of safety! Some pretty fireworks isn't worth burning down an entire neighborhood!
[User Picture]From: thunderflyer
2012-07-02 07:33 pm (UTC)

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Yes, turn them in.

The red necked asswholes that live 'round me set off explosive and propulsive fireworks all night long. Sparkler and shower ones are legal, the others are not. Unfortunately, law enforcement don't care until someone gets hurt.
[User Picture]From: meshuggenah42
2012-07-02 07:37 pm (UTC)

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Yeah, I would call the cops.
[User Picture]From: feral
2012-07-02 07:42 pm (UTC)

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As in, call the cops on my neighbors? No, I wouldn't. If I get along with them, I would just ask them politely not to go too crazy with the fireworks. I would only call the cops if they were getting really carried away and it started to become a safety issue
[User Picture]From: dostehseh
2012-07-02 07:49 pm (UTC)

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No, I wouldn't turn them in.

I would probably deal with it by going somewhere where there wasn't going to be fireworks, or there were going to be minimal fireworks. I would remove myself from the situation or do what I could to minimize its effect on me.

I have never had anything threaded.
[User Picture]From: chesterismyhero
2012-07-02 07:54 pm (UTC)

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I'd turn em in. We *just* now got rain but they aren't lifting the burn bans. I sure as hell don't want my shit going up in flames so some assholes can have 10 minutes of fun.
[User Picture]From: futurenurselady
2012-07-02 07:57 pm (UTC)

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I love eyebrow threading!

I would turn them in.

[User Picture]From: firerosearien
2012-07-02 08:13 pm (UTC)

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If the fire danger is real, yes, turn them in. To me that comes even before my PTSD, because it's everyone's homes at risk. (there was no way that was grammatically correct, sigh).
[User Picture]From: hoodoo
2012-07-02 08:16 pm (UTC)

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i would go talk to my neighbors. Not in a threatening way, but let them know that you've been more than polite these past years but this year the heat wave + your condition is gonna make it unbearable. I mean if theyre nice, I think they should understand? And if they refuse, then yes I would turn them in.

i want to! because im sick of tweezers.

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[User Picture]From: dreadpiratekurt
2012-07-02 08:20 pm (UTC)

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Call the cops. Are you in Kentucky? Same exact thing is going on in my town/county. Drought, epic heat, fireworks ban...and dumbasses.

(I'm also a US Vet, Navy, with PTSD but mine's not combat related)
[User Picture]From: just_some_broad
2012-07-03 01:00 pm (UTC)

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In Indiana, and thank you for your service. I also have PTSD that is not combat-related (and that condition is the one the government is paying me for).

*hugs*
[User Picture]From: kmeghan
2012-07-02 08:23 pm (UTC)

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I would call the cops on them in a heartbeat. Not only would I want to avoid any issues with my PTSD, I'd also rather not have my hosue catch on fire.
[User Picture]From: katydidnt98
2012-07-02 08:24 pm (UTC)

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I'd try talking to them first. Going to the police is a big step, and could strain relationships. If it's necessary, it's necessary, but that wouldn't be my first choice.

The Xanax might be an okay solution, if it's only once or twice a year and you're doing it with doctor approval (or at the very least have spoken to a pharmacist/nurse/etc.) I don't know what you're going through because I don't have noise-related PTSD, and I'm sorry that happened. I wouldn't suggest using alcohol to get through it, especially with another med. Benzos are actually pretty safe for most people for short-term use; addiction is unlikely to be a risk if your use is very infrequent. They're not like barbituates where dosages have to be carefully measured to avoid an OD. I was on Xanax for about 3 weeks on a low dose and had no withdrawal issues; taking them for 1 day isn't going to induce withdrawal.
[User Picture]From: just_some_broad
2012-07-03 01:01 pm (UTC)

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I've been prescribed Xanax for about 24 years now D:
[User Picture]From: katydidnt98
2012-07-03 09:31 pm (UTC)

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Well, it's still not really a dangerous drug when taken as prescribed. The issue is that if you and your doctor wanted you to discontinue, you'd have to do it very carefully and slowly or you risk some bad withdrawal problems. If you've been on it 24 years without abusing it then I don't think abusing it is much of a danger for you.
[User Picture]From: jianantonic
2012-07-02 08:31 pm (UTC)

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That sucks, I'm sorry. I like the suggestions about going to a movie, and also noise cancelling headphones. Better than self-medicating.
[User Picture]From: just_some_broad
2012-07-03 01:02 pm (UTC)

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I am going to look for some noise-canceling headphones asap. I don't know if I can get over the hyper-vigilance caused by the PTSD enough to wear them though :/
[User Picture]From: jianantonic
2012-07-03 01:43 pm (UTC)

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Do you have pets? I've read a bunch of stories about veterans with PTSD adopting specially trained dogs to help with their anxiety. Not that you can get one before tomorrow, but have you looked into any of those programs?
[User Picture]From: just_some_broad
2012-07-03 07:07 pm (UTC)

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I have two sled dogs but the fireworks make them nervous as well (so if anything it makes me more anxious than ever!). I hadn't heard about the specially-trained dogs for veterans with PTSD but I'm going to look into it, thanks!
[User Picture]From: miss_almost
2012-07-02 08:56 pm (UTC)

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i'd definitely turn them in. its a serious safety issue since theres been a drought. i would have no compunctions about calling the cops on them. theres no ban here (besides the normal ban on fireworks) and i called the cops when my neighbors set one off so big/loud that it rattled my dishes.

get noise-canceling headphones. self-medicate maybe. maybe for next year take a vacation out of the country...or even just out of town. if you find some small B&B in a small tourist-trap town....theres less likely to be fireworks or at least fewer "big" ones. you could also plan this trip to states/locations where fireworks would be less likely. EX: illinois has a law banning stuff bigger than bottle rockets. but iirc, MO does not...so people in east st louis just go across the river and stock up. people who live 2 hours from the border....tend not to bother to go buy the big/illegal ones, and if they do...theyve spent so much money on gas they buy fewer of them.
so, go to a place thats not very densely populated, and in a location where fireworks are illegal AND hard to get ahold of.
[User Picture]From: heyfashion
2012-07-02 09:15 pm (UTC)

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Yup I'd turn them in.

idk, get some noise canceling headphones (or turn the volume on your tv up really loud) and have a movie marathon. That really sucks :(

I have not. My eyebrows are naturally very sparse so there has been no need.
[User Picture]From: wristtattoos
2012-07-02 09:43 pm (UTC)

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Hell yes, I would turn them in.

Please be careful mixing Xanax and alcohol!

I have. I go to an Indian shop in town. They do a really nice job.
[User Picture]From: lai_lai_ranma
2012-07-02 10:49 pm (UTC)

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Sounds like how we helped our dog handle it as well, gave him a sedative. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Yes, I prefer it over waxing.
[User Picture]From: freaky_eggplant
2012-07-02 10:50 pm (UTC)

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Ugh, fireworks freak me out even without PTSD. I would call the police for sure. I try to just stay inside with the windows closed and put a fan on beside me and watch a movie really loudly to cancel out as much of the outside noise as I can.

A girl I used to work with taught me how to do it, so I thread my own eyebrows every once in a while.
[User Picture]From: semi_sweet
2012-07-03 12:18 am (UTC)

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Yes, I would turn them in.

is there somewhere you could go and get away from the festivities? Like camping, amish country, a quiet b&b, go to a non-action movie?
[User Picture]From: just_some_broad
2012-07-03 01:03 pm (UTC)

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I love the idea of camping but it's just so dry around here, we couldn't even have a campfire or anything :/
[User Picture]From: emaciatedwords
2012-07-03 12:43 am (UTC)

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Thank you for your service.

If they were out using them, without a doubt call the cops. Everyone's safety is a priority.
[User Picture]From: scaramoucher
2012-07-03 12:47 am (UTC)

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After the fires we have had here, I would not hesitate to turn them in. No way am I going to risk some dumb ass burning the whole neighbourhood down.

[User Picture]From: fyxation
2012-07-03 02:34 am (UTC)

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Well, I'd sure as hell turn them in just for the threat of fire alone. Let them get fined. We have a burning ban on right now, also, and I'm curious to see how it goes.
As for coping with it... That's tough. Maybe go see some movies. Theaters are usually pretty soundproof.

[User Picture]From: hajiomatic
2012-07-03 03:01 am (UTC)

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When I went home for the 4th after being in Afghanistan for 2 years it freaked me the fuck out.

Let me know how this goes.....I'll have to deal with it myself.

IF you can go camping in a national park for the day???


HOOAH
[User Picture]From: hajiomatic
2012-07-03 03:03 am (UTC)

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PS the cops are gonna be too busy to do anything
sad but true
[User Picture]From: just_some_broad
2012-07-03 01:06 pm (UTC)

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I would love to go camping but because of the fire ban we couldn't even have a campfire :/ something to consider for next year though!

Several people have suggested noise-canceling headphones but I am hyper-vigilant due to the PTSD and so I don't think the headphones would help. The VA gives me all the Xanax I want so I guess that's going to be my best option again this year.
[User Picture]From: anywhereanyone
2012-07-03 06:51 am (UTC)

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Yeah I'd turn them in. Small time budget fireworks are dangerous and lame. Do you live someplace where you could potentially get away to a quiet place nearby. Camping in the middle of nowhere sort of thing?
[User Picture]From: just_some_broad
2012-07-03 01:07 pm (UTC)

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My sister used to have a farm on a dirt road and that was the quietest place I've ever been. Too bad she sold it, because that is where I would go :/
[User Picture]From: kittenkissies
2012-07-03 08:26 am (UTC)

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Be sure to hose down your house periodically throughout the day and night of the 4th.
[User Picture]From: just_some_broad
2012-07-03 01:07 pm (UTC)

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I thought of that, because I don't want these fools around here burning the place down :( the whole neighborhood is a tinderbox right now